Obsessed with a potential partner.

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Chapelo
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04 Nov 2015, 4:39 pm

So a bit of an update....we have continued to hang out over the last few weeks.

The last two sundays, she's invited me over to her house to have dinner, smoke, and hangout. There seems to be a pattern where she prefers to hang out with me on a one-to-one basis, without her boyfriend present. Each time we've hung out at her house, he hasn't been home. He was there once when we met up to walk to a bar near her house, and we chatted for a few minutes, but he didn't go with us, opting instead to stay at home playing video games.

When we are hanging out, she will often look me over with a smile/smirk on her face. She'll often do it when I'm not looking, but aware she is doing it. On more than one occasion, just to indulge I've looked straight back to her, and our eyes locked and we'd just look into each others eyes, staring for what seemed like an eternity. No fear or awkwardness, just pure electricity. The repeat glances are something she does quite frequently. She will also preen herself, smooth out her hair....always facing towards me. We've even thrown in playful touching...not much, just a light hand on the knee during conversation, or a touch of the arm. When I left her house after the bar trip, and on Sunday, she gave me a lingering hug that lasted a lot longer than our previous hugs, with alot more body contact. She pretty much buried her face in my chest.

She has become much more comfortable, and open towards me. We talk alot more via text....I've even made arrangements to bring lunch to her at work this Friday (she is a schoolteacher, and often does not get to eat lunch), which she excitedly agreed to.

But because of the boyfriend, I have not made any moves. I'm just observing, while throwing my own hints at her.

One things for sure, there's definitely mutual interest there, and maybe even sexual tension. I can't think of what else it could be.



Chapelo
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09 Nov 2015, 2:57 pm

Final update. As of yesterday, we are officially dating. She is in an open relationship with her boyfriend. He knows about me, and is completely fine with her dating me. She initiated it...and yes, we did get physical.

Not quite what I expected, but I'm open to it, and happy with the outcome :D



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09 Nov 2015, 4:31 pm

MissToad wrote:
A girl who is that "receptive" to you when she's got a boyfriend of 7-8 years is a girl who'd likely cheat on you too. Walk away.


This.

If she'll drop her boyfriend for you, why wouldn't she drop you for someone else down the line?

If she warms up to people that easily when in a relationship, who knows what else has happened in those 7-8 years.

Your best bet is to forget about her and move on.



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09 Nov 2015, 11:03 pm

Neotenous Nordic wrote:
MissToad wrote:
A girl who is that "receptive" to you when she's got a boyfriend of 7-8 years is a girl who'd likely cheat on you too. Walk away.


This.

If she'll drop her boyfriend for you, why wouldn't she drop you for someone else down the line?

If she warms up to people that easily when in a relationship, who knows what else has happened in those 7-8 years.

Your best bet is to forget about her and move on.

If it's an open relationship then that means that both parties consent and are okay with the situation. So, this should be fine honestly.

Congrats for you OP! Glad all parties found an amicable solution.