flirted for the first time

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Alright, were thread jacking here. let's all get back to the point of the thread.

No need to be rude violentcloud.

>> I like your logic. But don't you find it just means you always lost the people you care about to the annoying people who DO flirt? <<

Care about in what way? In a sexual way? If not, then how are you 'losing' them at all. I guess that must mean that you 'had' them already.

>> but never flirting <<

How can you be certain? Intentions can be misinterpreted, especially in this over sexualised modern world.

http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.html

It is interesting. I've tried implementing it, but it is a skill that I have yet to perfect.

"When you first meet new people, their initial impression of you will be based 55% on your appearance and body-language, 38% on your style of speaking and only 7% on what you actually say. "

That sucks, I figure that what I have to say is the best thing I have to offer.

Great article btw.

I know, huh? I figure the same thing...

It is actually very interesting, biologically speaking--at least from the evolutionary standpoint, since looks do absolutely nothing but signal, and can therefore be faked. I would think it would be in mankind's best interest to focus on things that matter, like intelligence, etc., instead of just going for who looks nicest. It is interesting because---and I might not be explaining myself here---it is interesting because looks appeal to the physical side of mankind, the part that is responsible for procreating, and the "better" one looks, the better one's chances of getting a mate, just like in the animal world. But is it really better? I dunno, I was just thinking about that.

Yay, Spud and Auras!

As you've discovered, it CAN be done -- and FUN. To the skeptics, flirting doesn't have to be anything heavy or overly sexual. Some of the best flirting is just playful fun. Nothing too latent with intent or expectations. It's harmless, and given your smile all the way to the car, Spud, you know how good it -- and realizing you CAN do it if you try -- feels.

Took me a long time to not get freaked out by it -- and learn the algorithm. Then for a while in my early 30s, I got so out of practice that I almost forgot. I got back in the habit again a couple years ago. Doesn't take much too often, but it makes life much more pleasant for me -- and for others, too.

And for those of you in dating mode -- or who wish you were -- it's a big step toward making things happen.

Keep up the good work.

DD

Hmm..I am 34 years old and I have never tried flirting yet .

Nobody have even told me yet if I am aspie or not, but it seems to me most of the members here mannage with dating better than me. I have not been on dates for 10 years.
I do not really have courage to go to meet strange man and I am not able to find a suitable
person with whom to make a meeting in the cafe forexamble.


I am verbal person and dancer, but it does not help anything. Almost all men run away
from me because I am
celibate. (I am celibate because of everything I had to face in life etc.)
I have so many years dreamt to find someone who would like to share love without sex, but I can not find. (I am heterosexual celibate and I think I would suit with heterosexual (celibate) or asexual person. But I am very romantic and sensitive emotional person with a lot of empathy.

Even here I find it difficult to find any communication, but I am thinking maybe it is because here is not so much my age of people.