Have you ever been catfished?

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That's my understanding. I learned the term when the story about that football player and his fake girlfriend and her fake tragic death came out.

It seems like the motivation is often psychological. The perpetrators are after the thrill of manipulating and controlling another person by deception.

Nobody want to catfish me so far..

I am an oil-rich landowner Arabian prince, marry me, and you will get 2 mil $ as a dower.

Except Mr.arabic zaffa Boo with his face in an Arkansas glass container.

Huh?

Forget it.

I was once contacted on eHarmony by a 24 year old Nurse named Diane. She went through all the proper channels on the site and when it came to the messaging, gave me her email address. I wrote her back because she was VERY well written: not only proper grammar and spelling but written in a conversational tone. Her pictures were very neutral and I could not spot any landmarks at all but that isn't completely unusual.

She then proceeds to tell me she is originally from Jacksonville, Florida, her parents are both dead (and she talked about how hard it was to lose them at 16) and she joined a volunteer group that provides medical services to developing countries and she will be returning from Africa in three weeks. She then asked to talk via MSN messenger IIRC to which I declined since I don't have it. She wrote back like a salesperson that it is free to install and would prefer to communicate that way and got quite pushy about it. I stood my ground, said email is fine to me and never heard from her again.

She never once indicated she would need any financial help of any kind but the dead giveaway was that she said she lived with her aunt in (My City),(Two Letter Provincial Code). Nobody EVER refers to a Canadian city that way, especially to a fellow local. I still don't know what her angle was: I suspect the money request would have come three weeks later when she has to pay a "bribe" because she isn't a Canadian Citizen.

What was really bizarre is that scams are usually easy to spot. Nothing added up with this one but she was very well spoken with perfect English and asked questions about my profile so it probably wasn't a bot of any kind yet she never got in depth at all with my answers. I guess I will never know the nature of the catfish.

Just a few days ago, I received an email from the same "woman" who catfished me in September. However, the photo she sent me was of a different person. I deleted the email immediately.

I wish i could have foreseen this before it actually happened to me, (not that i'd have wanted to) and perhaps for me, I'll use a former quote of expression here, that turned out to be awkwardly true.

QuoteExample: Emails from a young woman expressing (1) her love for the male recipient, and (2) her need of financial help in emigrating to the recipient's country. She always needs "just a little more help" due to bribes, an injured or sick relative, more fees, or some other unforeseen expense. The young woman may be courting several men at once, and living tidily off of their gift. She may even send a few "racy" images to keep her victims interested with the promise of sexual bliss once she finally arrives.


Turn this the other way around and number 1 is correct and the last one seems true on both equal sides, besides the fact some of it was not catfishing but more like dogfishing. Anyone with a life at sea would be able to interpret this as
just absence making the heart grow stronger, but what about starving off severe sea sickness and insomnia at every malfunction made possible that empathy for oneself, gets washed away and radared off course? Like um.. Penzance?

I think the living tidily off ones gift was neither here nor there, as i chose not to be the recipient of such 'gifts' lavished upon me on the supposed arrival, but natures own gift on standby can be a force repellant for such men.
I didn't have to state anything, but ill fated attraction was anything but.. Clearly status only defines opposition but doesn't demonstrate any relationship advice.
Unfortunately, I don't like to be towed offshore against my will nor brought forwards against it either, plus no one mentions the rations that a woman needs to supply a whole deed once she accepts 'the gift'. Taking generosity only means one thing and one thing only, you can't give it back in like so you're selling yourself off short to please the other persons self-driven apathy.

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..may also turn out to be a man.

This was also true

Probably but I'm also a hacker so I don't really see how it could get to me. Just gonna give everyone the benefit of the doubt on this one - given that I'm the kind of guy who sits naround stealing my own identity sometimes.

Someone once helped me take down a whole bunch of catfish. These catfish were a nasty bunch - fake lesbians preying on real women basically, and using gaming communities to gain influence and access to a lot of things (female contact included). Turns out they were a catfish as well and used the fact that they know who outed them (me) as a means of insurance so that I wouldn't out them also. But seeing as I hadn't actually done anything wrong, I did some digging and outed them and their friend, too. Turns out they were worse than the original group I mentioned!

You mean, like you grow a few more whiskers and eat catnip to improve your chances of dating success? in the end,
it has to embark on its own course.

A cat always marks the scent of its own identity before leaving the rest of the cream intact.

Dogs are always more aggressive than cats.. it's as if nature didn't remind them to play safe.

Its just a shame not more dogs get castrated the same way females are often forced to.

In the end, the dog just runs out of tuna and the cat gets fished out of the sealife aquarium tank
before it is used for bait.

The last part is never pleasant, but it means the fish survives.

No, I mean literally. I.T. security biz wants my immortal soul. They can't haz.

I did however wind up with a code beard this week.

^^@Could try the art of scapegoating redemption and see where that leads you Cberg?

Right ahead of you My complacency regarding monstrous conglomerates enveloping all technology in the world is pointless to deny but I only ever got into it because I know what it will do for you.

I'm not a natural scapegoat by any means but it's only a transitive state - comes with academic territory; nothing which materially or socially affects me.

I don't think so, can't say no one ever tried but if they did I wasn't receptive to it. I mean there was one I recall where I got a messege from someone who said they were a wealthy guy looking for a woman to 'take care of financially' or something like that. I thought it seemed rather scammy so I never responded and the profile and even if it wasn't a scam I never have wanted a boyfriend/relationship for money...I care much more about getting along with the person, actually liking them then what they could offer financailly. But also the profile was deleted after like a week. I suspect its more likely it was some kind of trap to get unsuspecting women to come to some location and from there who knows what.

Last edited by Sweetleaf on 29 Jun 2017, 7:05 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I don't really engage with many people online very often so I have avoided this type of unpleasant human contact so far. I wonder why someone would go through the trouble of doing this type of behavior. What benefits does it provide the perpetrator of such behavior?