Has anyone here ever dated another Aspie?

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I'm married to an NT, but he's weird in his own way. That's why I married him. I don't think I could ever relax with a completely normal man.

If I ever had to date again (hopefully, I won't), I'd definitely consider an Aspie, but I would have to find one without touching issues. I'm very affectionate and crave the same from my partner.

I wonder how many Aspies are affectionate????? It seems like an issue that should be discussed before dating. It could make or break the relationship.

I'm very affectionate too, but only with a partner and only once I'm comfortable, I'm not affectionate in general.

I'm also a bit paranoid about knowing when it's ok to be affectionate with someone 'cause I know that I'm not good at picking that sort of stuff up.

Yeah, I really need to find someone who just says what they're thinking.

It'd take a lot of paranoia and guess work out of the equation.

I havn't... but I think I could. My best friends are Aspies. I know 9 Aspies (4 who are older than me) and I get along with all of them really well. I think I could date someone with Aspergers. It would be very interesting, that's for sure!

DATED one? To the best of my recall, I dated exactly one woman in my life, and she was extremely NT.

I did, however, marry an aspie, and it worked out great.

Never even met another Aspie but it would be cool to date someone who wouldn't be offended when i just wanted to be left alone.

My one and only longterm relationship was with another aspie...at the time I did not realise I was aspie or him, for that matter as he didn't tell me until later on. 5 and a half years, a large part of it most unpleasant. We clashed on a lot of things, and he was more of the vulcan kind until the latter year or so of being together, after he had learnt a lot about himself from a counselling course.

Yes. I dated one for a couple months and now he is very hard to get a hold of and he never calls me so I gave up calling him all the time.
He didn't even know he was an aspie till he met me. After looking it up, it explained why he was always different. He helped me know I was right and I really don't have it because you needed to meet all of C D E and F to have it and I was slow in cognitive and little slow with self help skills. I can understand why the D part was dropped because I had ear infections and it caused my hearing loss so it made my speech delayed. Now I'm being told lot of aspies don't meet the criteria and the criterias aren't meant to be followed or taken literally and I got told the E part means it's recognized by a doctor as relevant and I asked so it's up to the doc you meet it or not and he said for and example, if you're judged as having a mental age of 4 when you're 6 that's significant. Now here I am still trying to figure this all out. I don't know who's right. Maybe I should see a psychiatrist or a psychologist or whoever. Maybe he or she can answer.

My guy tries so hard to be normal and fit in, he will buy clothes that are in style and try to keep up with fashion but he dressed in black and didn't dress his age. He dressed like a guy in his early mid twenties and it didn't bother me and he liked things organized and in place and he was a feminine person. He also has PSTD from what his ex did to him. When I watch kid shows, it make him feel he was with a kid instead of with an adult so he refuse to sit with me and hug me and cuddle with me because he didn't want to be a pedophile. I took that as part of his PTSD so I wouldn't have a lot of hurt feelings. I think he likes kid movies or he wouldn't be taking his son to them. I Just realized that today because he's told me he would not let his kids play kid CDs in his car while traveling because he doesn't want to hear them, they can use headphones. But here is taking his son to see movies that are made for kids but he won't see them alone because he thinks people would think he is a pedophile but when his son is with him, people will just think "oh he is taking his kid to see it."
He also has a lot of strange interests I realized some of them were effecting me and after living with my aunt and uncle, I realized there was nothing wrong with me because my 23 year old cousin watched Aladdin and so did her husband when they were visiting and she mentioned she saw Chicken Little and she said she wanted to see the TMNT movie when she saw the preview on TV. I have also seen on here that a few adult aspies like Hello Kitty. One of them has the logo so I'm assuming she likes it. I know she is a grown up because she mentioned her kids.
But there were also good things about him. He has helped me with the apsie tests when I come to questions I didn’t understand and if I did it or not because I’m not always aware of I do something or not so I always click Don’t know, same with questions I don’t understand, he has also told me I am like those aspie men on AS Partners site. He was very honest so I was able to ask him anything and I asked if I was like those aspie men on the website their Nts make them sound like. I didn’t even realize I had a monotone voice till I met him. But I wondered if it could be him who doesn’t recognize change of tones because that is also an autism spectrum trait but since he can recognize changes in voices in other people, I can believe him what he says about my voice.
We have gone out, has played videogames with me, had lot of the same DVDs I have, same with movies I like, fixed my car for free, etc.

It's actually tends to be very typical for an Aspie to act somewhat younger than they are. as to why he would be ashamed of it I have no idea.

Some people are obsessed with the word 'normal.' He doesn't want to have AS. I told him there is no such thing as normal but it still doesn't help. I have jumped to his definition of normal by telling him my Dad, Mom, brothers aren’t normal either because of their health problems or disability, same as my uncle. I told him lot of people aren’t normal because they have some kind of healthy problem and lot of people have disabilities. If he is going to see the word normal as having nothing wrong with you, then there isn’t a lot of normal people in the world.


He knows aspies act younger than their ages but I act 2-5 years old according to him and aspies don’t act that young he says. After being on here, he saw aspies don’t act that young. He could be wrong of course because every aspie is different. He has only known about AS since December so he is still learning about it. Took me a couple of years to understand it myself.


Seriously, are there adult aspies who watch shows that are for toddlers?