06 May 2007, 3:49 am
Shale wrote:
I'd go with the aforementioned suggestions (in general) of a) making as many women friends as you can, and b) give meeting potentials online a try.
The former...female friends would happily divulge ways of hitting it off with a gal, if you don't get plenty of ideas from just being around them as it is
The latter...well. This is from experience. Met my current man online, through a Subaru forum...we talked for a month or so before meeting irl. I'm pretty outgoing, have no issues starting conversations with practically anyone...him however, definitely an Aspie. If he'd met me irl first, he never would have talked to me...too shy, would have locked up. But since he already knew me...he could start talking to me from the moment he met me like he'd known me for ages. Well, he did. Wasn't in the least bit shy, and has to be one of the easiest first meetings I've ever had. We ended up hooking up a month or so later.
Whatever you do, don't give up and don't keep doing the same things if they have negative reactions.
And speaking of reactions, don't let something that's less than positive stop you from trying it again. Some girls like some things (eg: holding hands perhaps), others don't. So if someone gives you a slightly cold or disinterested reaction if you, say, kiss her on the cheek, don't let that stop you from ever doing it again... (this again from experience)
The former...female friends would happily divulge ways of hitting it off with a gal, if you don't get plenty of ideas from just being around them as it is
The latter...well. This is from experience. Met my current man online, through a Subaru forum...we talked for a month or so before meeting irl. I'm pretty outgoing, have no issues starting conversations with practically anyone...him however, definitely an Aspie. If he'd met me irl first, he never would have talked to me...too shy, would have locked up. But since he already knew me...he could start talking to me from the moment he met me like he'd known me for ages. Well, he did. Wasn't in the least bit shy, and has to be one of the easiest first meetings I've ever had. We ended up hooking up a month or so later.
Whatever you do, don't give up and don't keep doing the same things if they have negative reactions.
And speaking of reactions, don't let something that's less than positive stop you from trying it again. Some girls like some things (eg: holding hands perhaps), others don't. So if someone gives you a slightly cold or disinterested reaction if you, say, kiss her on the cheek, don't let that stop you from ever doing it again... (this again from experience)
Hmmmm, all helpful. I mean, I will admit that I've made friends from networking sites and the like (ex: Facebook), but I've always been reluctant to pursue relationships w/ people I meet over the internet for a number of reasons, like distance, explaining it to people, etc.
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