Ever had a 'fling'?

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I don't really seek to have flings they just happen sometimes... The people I have them with are people I don't really like so that I don't get emotional about it.
Though an ex of mine came round and a heap of 'stuff' happened, and I get so confused by her and I guess a sorta fling like that is very emotional...
I can't let go, it's painful.

They don't have to. I've stopped things a couple of times, when I knew I couldn't really enjoy anything with the given person.

Nope. Actually, I've specifically avoided blantant opportunities, and I plan to continue doing so.

Yeah, I know how that goes. She didn't go back to her ex or anything, I think she was just wasted and wanted sex. So was I (drunk) so I don't feel guilty about it, especially since I came to the conclusion that she simply used me.

Yeah, this is definitely true for many of them. I can't explain why. I wish I could. I wish I could figure out why so I could determine another way to handle it that didn't involve me intentionally being an a**hole, since I try not to be normally.


Other than the aforementioned one, I only had one. I didn't seek it out, it just kind of...happened. I blame whoever handed me the bottle of vanilla vodka after I downed 11 beers. That instance, I do feel a little guilty about it. Well, I did at first. I may have said stuff I didn't mean / intend on following through with. That bugs me. From what I heard, she just wanted sex, which makes sense with how I remember her acting earlier in the night. I was actually the "fall guy," since another guy was "rescued" from my fate by friends who cut him off from drinking and got him out of there.

Don't get me wrong, I think the girl has a cool personality and all, and (currently) I can't say I wouldn't be at all interested in something more. At the time, I was still interested in the person from the first story.

"You have a serious problem of distorting reality. You could sleep with the entire planet and still feel rejected. " ...for some reason, that hit home for me when I watched that movie. (Yes, I will probably ramble on about said movie in multiple threads for some time now. Feel free to tell me to shut up about it if it gets old.)

No, I've never had a fling. It must take some social skills because there is some step I keep tripping up on.

What I find disturbing is that I am always nice, polite, and respectful towards women. I have them come up to me for whatever reason but then something about my interactio with them repels them. You tell them to shut the hell up and they go home with you. Maybe I should try to stop respecting women, being the nice guy has never worked for me. It seems to me that the ultimate turn-off for a woman is to be treated with respect.

Even if I had the inclination to have a fling, I think it'd be counter-productive, as I have an unfortunate tendency to get too emotionally-attached, and to do so far, far too quickly.

So if some random girl took me back to her place for a quick doinking, I suspect I'd want to call her the next day and ask her out properly. Which probably wouldn't end up well for me, I'd imagine.

With that in mind, it's probably safer for me not to attempt it...

If I was smart, I would have had one tonight.

Lacking the beard definitely drew even more attention.
close though.

Flings with the same sex are irritating, but when it happens that they're the same sex as you... They are unerving, though saying that I think I may have been more unerved by the persons music taste and posters on their wall rather than the fact they were a guy.

My opinion on sex is that it mostly is mechanical, though saying that- I don't really enjoy it.

I think flings are more to do with oppurtunities than any sort of social skills (although, I guess you do need certain 'skills' to help you make the most of those situations or maybe another person to feel superficially attracted to you is good enough), the correct type of person in the right situation is all it needs.

Well I always 'know' that there is a good chance that I could't enjoy the situation, I just go ahead and see what would happen so I supposeit often is just experimental.


That explains perfectly how I feel, I need a helluva lot of reassurence. It would seem to be alot easier for me to meet somebody and have something instance than waiting around for them to actually like me.
Ultimately I think I have some self esteem 'issues', which in a an actual consistent relationship are hard for the other person to deal with.
Not many people want to hang out with a guy who always feels inadeqaute.