Am I attractive? (Avatar is me).

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I'm working to look more confident. I really want to, however, I really am not.

For example, a few days ago, this boy I have spoken to once smiled and looked at me. Was he smiling at me or was he smiling still when he looked to see who was there? I walked by, not smiling.

He seems very friendly, having spoken to my SA brother a few times. He is also very popular, I believe. I do not mean to sound romantically interested in him, but I would like to be on friendly terms with him because he seems like a cool guy.

If I smile at him, will he think I am coming on to him? I tried to smile at another boy a few months ago, trying to be friendly but not romantic, he looked uncomfortable and walked away.

Face is ok. What about the body?

Sorry to put it so blunt, but this could be relevant.

In truth, if a high school boy sees a girl smiling at him, he will usually assume that the girl is romantically interested in him.

well looking at her face there is no way she something is obese, so i dont think her body would be the problem..

Honeslty i think its more how she might carry herself? You know if someone seem very nervous, insecure and awkward, some people are gonna think they are loners and will not even try to approach.. and also since this is an autism site, assuming she has that, she might also miss some hint the guys are giving her?
But then again i know nothing about her personality, so its just a guess

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And CryingTears, about the smiling thing, if you just see him and smile, then yeah maybe he will think you are trying to flirt with him..
And dont be like " " lol, because that might make him feel wierd if you dont know each other

I've known some pretty attractive women who happen to be hefty.

I doubt that the OP is hefty. I hope she's not too thin.

Too thin is worse than too chubby.

I am muscular curvy. I am definitely not overweight, but I am curvy. My mom has said "Scarlett Johanssen type curvy". I don't know if that's too flattering! XD

Very little of my weight is fat, I am pretty active. It also runs in my family, my mom told me that I could be underweight and still have curves.

I have a pretty good hourglass figure that I used to stress a lot about but have since come to accept.

I do have Asperger's and while I am above average in nonverbal cues for an Aspie, I am still below average for normal people. I mean, I can't even begin to understand my peers.

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That's the sort of figure most men like.

I think you're going to be okay in that department!

I think you are look pretty in your photo.

Self confidence seems to be an issue with a lot of aspies, I know I can be really shy and have a really hard time with being confidant with people unless I know them well. I can't really tell how old you are, but if you're in HS like others have said than you shouldn't worry so much, being young you have time to get better about it.

I think sly is in love.

Yes I think you look good. I am female so can't judge from guys perspective.

Hard to say from one picture. I can look like a model in certain pictures (I look absolutely nothing like a model in real life).

Huh?

You're not attractive to me, but I use attractive in a personal way (and seem to be quite picky). I don't think it makes sense to talk about a person being attractive outside of being attracted to them. I try not to second guess what other people may think of something.

That said, and it's hard to tell from such a small photo, but you do seem to have a pleasant face (that conveys a pleasant personality) and to dress well. Certainly I see nothing in the photo that goes against what I understand the present public mood dictates as 'physically appealing'.

Could there be something you're not aware of in your body language that gives 'keep away' signals? Is there anyone you know in real life who could give a better assessment? How you move, how you hold yourself, how you interact - all are things no-one here can observe and advise on, but that will affect how you come across.

^ that was exacly what i was trying to say, you just worded it better haha

Me on a meh day.

My male friends have told me that I am attractive. I know one photo looks dumb, but I don't think any one photo captures your "true" self.

For example, I crush on people who sometimes I look at and say "meh".

Oh, and I usually am more made-up than this, this is not my "true" self.

I would say you are definitely above average in the looks department.