Why are geeky guys attracted to artsy girls?

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I have afew geeky characteristics but I'm much more of a d0rk than a geek. My girlfriend is artsy but I'm not into art stuff. I'm not really attracted to her artsy characteristics but she has lots of other characteristics I am attracted to. I do try to encourage her in her artsy stuff to be supportive & even thou I'm not really attracted to those things, I think it's good that she's able to do those things.

Geek-bashing thread on a forum full of geeks (AS after all was also called the Geek syndrome for a reason): now geek guys are pain in the butt, simply because they like some type of girls.

Personally, I don't like "artsy" girls, not at all, they are often too crazy for me and are often pretentious.... dating them is big pain in the butt (tit for tat).

I would prefer moderate and regular girls anytime.

Geek guys themselves aren't a pain the butt. The type that isn't my type wanting to date me is because if I don't have a lot in common with a guy what's the point?

I wasn't bashing anyone. I'm more the cute, girly girl type but I can be artsy or geeky because I view fashion and makeup as art as well as something that I am a geek about.

I've known geeky girls who are absolutely the BOMB. Same with artsy girls!

I think girls with horned-rimmed, tortoise-shell glasses are cute--especially if they are nice besides!

Given that guys often study math / science and girls study art and literature, this isn't surprising at all.
My definition of "geeky" isn't really the trendy one though, and when I hear "geek" I think about the old school nerd who is forgotten by everyone, or worse, bullied by other students, because he's married to science and technology. The conventionally attractive "geek" is very rarely of that type... If that's a guy who loves anime and mainstream video games, as we often see on TV, I don't really call such a guy "geeky". Almost all somewhat introverted 20-somethings are like that. They're just "normal".

If that was what the OP meant by "geek", then I totally misunderstood. That isn't the kind of person I am at all, and so that isn't what I think of when I think of "geek".

What I'm referring to is someone who wants to understand how everything works, in a sense that someone would understand a clock by taking it apart. There are different kinds, of course--there are computer programmers/game designers, there are physics nerds/geeks like the guys on The Big Bang Theory, and there are math geeks like John Nash in A Beautiful Mind. Basically, these people see everything through the "lens" of math/science/whatever. It is these people for whom "artsy" people can provide a different, contrasting "lens" that makes them feel more well-rounded.

I see the people who are into anime and comic books as just like the people who are really into action movies or other Hollywood things, just they follow a different cultural mainstream. But that in itself doesn't make them necessarily smart or able to understand complex technical subjects--it just means that they are too awkward for the "real" mainstream, so they have to find an "awkward mainstream" to follow instead.