I Think I'm Falling in Love

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I don't know where he lives. I use to do Very Stupid things in the past, but I don't do them anymore!!

As I said before, it could be one of the staff who told you your meal was paid for, hinting at you that it was them who actually paid for it.

As Face of Boo said before, it could be that they're treating you every now and again just to keep you coming back and paying.

You need to consider these options before thinking it's likely to be him.

No, the trick is to only let it go into a full-blown obsession if it is mutual.

I think she is doing ok. I'm following the whole thing eagerly and I'm just waiting for the happy end (whenever it occurs).

I would agree you probably have an admirer at the restaurant, but it probably isn't this guy (could be another great guy though!). So i think wisteria was just saying be careful.. He may be interested, but after 5mos he also may not and may just be being friendly because that's his job and he's a nice guy.

Crushes can be wonderful and fun and lead to a great relationship. But when the mind advances the feelings before they've been reciprocated, it can often be a pathway to tremendous pain. I think everyone here wants this to work out for you, but at the same time, no one wants to see you get hurt - hence the warnings.

It seems to me that there is a good chance they are reciprocated. You know, people don't need to go on formal dates in order for feelings to be reciprocated. It can happen in other ways too.

Management at restaurants don't just pay for people so that they would "come back." You'd see swarms of people coming in for a free meal should they hear about that!

Kitty definitely has an admirer.

She's not stalking her crush. She just has a crush on him, and thinks about him a lot.

I thought about my crushes a lot when I had them.

If you are toooo obsess with someone, you will be stalking them, I'm NOT STALKING him! Get it out of your head! And I know it may not be Jeff, I'm hoping its him, but I know there a 50-50 chance that it not him.

I don't know if anything going happen between us, I'm having ALOT of doubts, I don't know if I want him part of my very mess life, I'm having sooooo much problems with my sister & now my dad, he is Angry at me for something he did, cuz he don't understand me. Now I want out of the family! And I'm really scared of my feelings for Jeff.

From what i've read, there's also a really good chance it's not. He may just be being friendly because it's his job and he's a nice guy. After 5mos, i believe they haven't even had a conversation. He could of course be interested and shy, but he also as above, could just be a nice guy.

It's impossible for us to say without being there. I do however wonder, little things like appearing very busy when someone comes in may be a sign that he's picked up on the feelings and doesn't reciprocate. Which, i'm not saying he doesn't. Just that at this point, having had no obvious or subtle confirmation, it may be a good idea to keep feelings from amplifying.

If it ends up he likes her, nothing lost. And if he doesn't, it saves a lot of pain.

I know a restaurant who gives me a free desert every while because I order a lot from it.

I know another small resto near my workplace that gives free sandwich to my coworker every while because he gets his breakfast from them like...everyday.

It's actually a retention strategy toward loyal clients and not to make some clients to come back.

I never heard of a guy being your boyfriend without dating, I'm sure BFs & GFs date if they don't live together.

What is reciprocated?

A cafe or a restaurant?

I was at the restaurant yesterday & the woman who works there, she paid for my drink, it was my first alcohol drink in about 5 years.

What the difference between cafe & restaurants?

Cafes are smaller and tend to do lunches and breakfasts and small things like sandwiches, sometimes cream teas and basic stuff like chips and meat that don't take much effort to prepare. They tend to be open all day or just during the day.

Restaurants tend to be more formal, serving dinners that take more effort to prepare, nicer more expensive drinks etc. They're often bigger and more expensive than cafes. They do breakfasts in some of them, but even then they're using less cheap ingredients. They are also often open late.

I've been a "regular" at quite a few restaurants and cafes (mostly cafes).

I only had somebody from the restaurant/café pay for my meal once (and that was because I forgot my money--and I had to pay them back the next day).