I think i could be lesbian. What next?

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Have you ever thought about a woman in a sexual way.

Have you ever wanted to kiss a woman?

Ive wanted to kiss them and stuff, ive had a few crushes on girls but i dont want sex lol. I dont know what that makes me.

It makes you someone who likes women...but you don't want to go "all the way" with them.

Nothing wrong with that. It's whatever satisfies you.

Sooo, if no one minds me getting back on topic...

In the old days, once you figured it out you'd leave your parents home and catch a bus to the nearest big city. There, you'd find a bar called, The Black Cat and hang out like so many other homeless gay kids. You'd pretend you were tough, and older than you really are. With luck someone would take you in & let you stay on their couch. If you were lucky they wouldn't expect sex. Someone in the group they introduce you to would help you find a job. Eventually you'd move in with her and buy a motorcycle and the two of you would go for long rides. She'd be your first real girlfriend. Oh, wait; that's the plot for half of the for-lesbians fiction written in the 80's and 90's. Some of it isn't half bad, by the way. And not all of it was far from the truth for many people back then.

In all seriousness, now that you know - or strongly suspect, even - you don't have to "do" anything. Live your life, be happy and if you are lucky find someone to fall in love with. It's just that now you know which part of the population to focus on, should you feel like it. There is nothing wrong with wanting to "try" dating a girl, nor doing so. If it fits, you'll know it. If it doesn't you'll have a better idea of who/what type of person you do want to fall for.

Oh, and regarding this, " ive had a few crushes on girls but i dont want sex lol." ...that's okay too. Not everyone loves baseball, or ballet or playing the lottery; why should everyone *have* to want sex (apart from it's used to sell...almost anything).

Since I'll probably be giving a similar talk in the next few years anyway...
If you meet a nice girl who is a lesbian and she seems to like you too, ask her out. Or hang out with her. And if getting more physical feels right to you, go with it. If it doesn't, and the relationship grows, that's okay too, but let her know in some nice way that you don't want to have sex (or whatever level bothers you, or scares you, or whatever). In any relationship, each person plays/lives different roles and that includes when you get more intimate. Some fit together, some don't. The only way you'll know is to try.

When did I get OFF topic?

My apologies, kraftiekortie; that was not aimed at you. I was referring to the The_Face_of_Boo's side-tracking. I found it annoying b/c the very first thing he did was reduce being a lesbian to a single dimension called, 'sex'.

^ For a non-asexual person alien like me, sex is fun.

The OP can defend herself if she feels bothered by my comments, same for kraftie.

Why are so pissed off lately?

I get why pissed off because often if you say to ppl your asexual ppl say things like that's not real, that's not a proper relationship, you haven't found the right person, etc etc.
Also society pushes sex a lot but it's so much different from love. People don't realise. So I understand.

Me pissed-off?? pissed-off? Do I look pissed-off to you?



Back to topic.

LOL....I wasn't talking about you at all.

kraftie's perception is totally inaccurate, I don't know where he got that idea that I am pissed off.

I wasn't pissed off.

But you are clearly weren't pissed off by my comment joke, and you even thought about it in your replies, I mean , I didn't even know you're asexual, asexuals are a very small minority so people would always assume first you're sexual, you know that is true.

Wait... what? I am confused, never mind.

I'm glad I'm totally inaccurate.

There's no use being pissed off all the time.

I don't think kraftie is pissed at you but Edentheil. Lol no I'm not offended. That's true

Nah....Not pissed off at anybody. Thought someone was pissed with me.

I'm glad nobody pissed at me.