Your partner: outgoing or introvert?

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Congratulations, I hope (assuming he's not a psycho or anything) that it works out &/or that it is an enjoyable and interesting relationship!

Regarding being an introvert, I agree with one addition, if I may? Introverts typically "recharge" by being alone or mostly isolated. This could be in nature, in a vehicle, in an isolated room like a server farm. If that makes sense, be sure to not only schedule your down time but (if you do need it) make sure he understands how it works. Sometimes spending down time / recharging time / decompression time with an extrovert can be very nice indeed...so long as they know how to refrain from talking too much.

I've always been very independent so I don't like the idea of needing to rely on a romantic partner for something as basic as getting out once in awhile if I want or need to. Whatever they are, as long as we mesh well I'm happy.

And I guess as an 'Ambivert' it makes sense I did a combination of both everytme I suffered heartbreak or rejection - have some time to myself in the long nights, but spend as much time with friends as possible throughout the days.

And yeah, definition if introvert isn't to necessarily be a homebody, but I've always thought it's at least somewhat implied in the definition.

Depending on what kind of place you live in, big city or small town or such, activities that are outdoor yet non-social or solitary may be difficult to come by.

Even things such as a picnic in the park may be unintentionally social as there may be too many people there that it's impossible to be completely alone like you want to be.

In the case of my city, the only outdoor activity that completely avoids social interaction would probably be driving into the outskirts of town at sunset for the heck of it.

There is no beautiful nature here except way out on the highway to other towns and cities (this is a countryside city), because the outskirts are empty and industrialized with factories and farms. The inner-city is far too noisy for any peaceful, lonely little walks except for the quiet suburbs.

But for the introverts who want to almost entirely avoid social interaction, your only option is indoors.

My girlfriend is an introvert. She has anxiety & Avoidant Personality. I'm an introvert too. I'm not great with social interaction but I'm OK. I don't want someone who's going to compensate for that because I don't feel I need to be great socially. I have issues going out cuz I can get directions confused & I have a low vision disorder so I cant read the signs on buses. Me & Cass go out together a lot but not always. She manages OK socially but she tends to stress herself out about it before going & it wears her out aLOT. I'm her emotional support or at least try my very best to be.

Probably never going to get one but I'd prefer an introvert though. I don't want to deal with "friends" and stuff.