Why do I attract people from the geek subculture?

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You're still trying to attract women right? Why are "geeky" men chatting with you? (Well I know the actual why, you look very hipster/counter culture). Isn't there an option on dating sites to only look for other women looking for women? I'm oblivious to their mechanics, never used them.

IIRC she said she was bisexual which you think should make things easier My suggestion to that was to join the LGBTQ club assuming she is attending university because there might be someone that's in similar situation or was or knew that was, everyone says those clubs are good way to meet people(altho the ones at my school are lames as hell)

I want to generally attract artsy hipsterish intellectualish types. Neogeeks aren't too awful. I can often have okay conversations with them. I just feel empty and unbalanced after I talk to them. They just don't have the right energy for me. Bros are usually extremely boring and kind of sexist.

Yeah. I'm trying to attract women. Since women rarely message each other I have another profile that I use for market research. I want to know how I'm coming across to people. Since I'm attracting neogeeks instead of countercultural guys, I assume I come across more like a neogeek.

What's a neogeek?

Someone who's involved in the geek subculture. It's possible to be geeky and nerdy without being a neogeek. I'm an example. I love psychology, sociology and optics. That stuff would make me geeky or nerdy. I don't play video games, read comics, watch anime or cosplay. That means I'm not part of the geek subculture.

A hardcore social media user perhaps.

ie. Megan Fox is a neogeek because she uses twitter a lot.

I think using social media sites should automatically disqualify you from "true" geekdom. Unless of course you are programmatically tweeting the status messages of your project.

Me too.

I think DevilKisses likes somewhat aggressive women with a bit of an "edge."

Or (a little less) androgynous-looking guys who look hipster-like.

Video games (if done more excessively), Pokemon, comic books, cosplaying, anime, that is all pretty Aspergerian.
Many Aspergers are attracted to other Aspergers a lot.
After all "geek" is somewhat a synonym for aspie.

Then there are quite a lot of anime characters with blue hair .

Yeah. I definitely like girls with an edge. Unfortunately the girls I've attracted so far were less edgy than average. I at least want a girl who has an average edge.

I was suspecting that. My facial expression on my profile is a bit aspie-ish, so I'm probably attracting too many people with aspie traits. Not all aspies are like that. I've met a few well-balanced aspies who aren't neogeeks.

I also doubt I'd be able to date people who play video games seriously. I don't take gaming seriously at all. That means I have hobbies I consider more important and the games I play are very casual.

*the popularized version of the geek subculture. In other words, all those people you see obsessing over Doctor Who or whatever.

Worst of all, these 'neo geeks' claim they're "so awkward lol" with their big 10-20 person geek crowd while us genuinely awkward aspies struggle to even befriend 1 or 2 stoner/drug dealers. They're also 'so weird' and 'crazy' when they have the most mainstream taste of millenials while we continue to have genuinely obscure interests and can never find anyone yo get along with.

I see a lot of neogeeks use this a kind of self depreciating humor when its unwarranted. The ultimate insult o us aspies who genuinely know struggle.

OP: I know how that feels, never attracted the types we are interested in
Might I ask what kind of details as you pur intp ypir profiles lland why might they be attracting geek males? Why does your blue hair lopk geeky? Does it give you that 'geeky gamer animw loving weaboo' look that all those neck beard types. And, is your profile pictures face-shots or body shots. The former gives more of n idea due to your fashion style being visible.

Srrh for bad grammar. On phone but took my time.

While I had a small number of "geek" friends in high school, I noticed that some of these friends had many more friends of their own, and I never really fit in with their cliques because I wasn't into whatever flavor of the week game/TV franchise/whatever they were into. I was part of a group that included a few people who were involved in much larger groups, although I did befriend a few others who were kind of "outsiders" like myself.

Interestingly, one of these sort of "outsider" friends had an older brother who was VERY aspie in hindsight, given his obsessions with Macintosh computers and Yu-Gi-Oh. His younger brother gave him a lot of crap (as well as his younger sister, my dad, my other friends... poor guy couldn't catch a break), and admittedly I joined in too because we all found him to be annoying. BUT, at the same time, we still hung out a fair bit, and I'd engage him in civil discussions. I feel bad for him because looking back, my friends and I used him quite a bit for transportation (he was the only one of us who had a drivers license for the longest time), and despite being somewhat immature and bigoted, he was also quite intelligent and passionate about his interests. I wonder what he's up to nowadays...

Sorry for the ramble there, but if you're wondering how that relates, my friend's older brother is a good example of what I'd call an *actual* geek, since he had genuine interests of his own and he didn't mindlessly follow "nerd" trends... unless you count his fervent worship of Apple products, but even still, he did it because he genuinely enjoyed those products, not because he was trying to attain "nerd cred".

Another thing, I'd be lying if I denied my "neogeek" influence, since I spent countless hours as a child watching TechTV (RIP) and reading magazines like MaximumPC and Electronic Gaming Monthly, and I had a fair number of friends who were kind of part of the neogeek thing. I just so happened to be born into geekdom as well, and it was only because of a recent epiphany I had that I realized the difference between my geekiness and the variety that's popular right now.

Simply put, your appearance.
A lot of straight male nerds and gamers would likely objectify how you look because the fantasy women in their games, comics and anime match your style. It's a look I dig, too but you know, we don't yet live in times where people might consider you are into women before acting first.

We are the Neogeeks, resistance is futile.



Hail to the evil king of Neogeeks!

His smile says it all, "We are going to rule the world!".