Reasons to Remain Single

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"This is beautiful."

Sarcasm, or genuine?

And thank you if genuine.

"The best reason to remain single:
It is easier"

I guess I just like making my life as hard as possible then, if it means I can make the life of someone else's easier.

Perhaps that's why sometimes i can be so negative and pessimistic - if you overcome that negativity, you feel better than ever.

Being a positive and happy and optimistic person who expects the best, probably won't feel as satisfied when they get, well, exactly what they expected.

But true happiness comes from surprising yourself, and challenging yourself.

Challenging your ideals.

If you're a negative person yet still 'succeed' and 'win' at life, it means you didn't need a positive attitude to win, just the motivation and effort.

I sometimes disagree with the advice ''happiness isn't the destination, it's the journey. You can just choose to be happy."

No, sometimes you can't just automatically 'choose' to be happy.

Sometimes it's better to actually do things that will make you happy, because once you do these things, you will actually value your happiness more, because rather than living life happy from the beginning, you instead decided you had to 'earn' your happiness, so to speak.

Kind of like how if you were born in a rich family, you may enjoy being rich, but you'd never learn the real value of a dollar until you've worked painstakingly hard for decades to become rich.

Happiness isn't the destination or the journey, it's both. It's enjoying the journey because you will someday reach the destination, not enjoying it even if you won't.

I'd rather be happy with the little bits of progress towards the destination than just forget the destination altogether like some people do.

And, typing this post just made me very happy and motivated.

^ Mr Outrider you have a good outlook on life. Its a positive thing to not have had the type of negative experiences that can leave a person closed minded.
Another video, this one is about why we are attracted to the familiar, and explains why some of us shouldn't be.

^^^that was the first time I have seen the old Israeli research on parental love maps translated into an entertaining cartoon

but it needs to be said, that some folk are utterly lacking in "potential."

I think everyone has a degree of potential, but the extent of which is relative to their situations in life, it also depends on if they can be self reflective enough to grow out of the environmentally caused personal flaws that can be changed, and if a suitable partner is found after this personal growth. Understanding your real strengths and limitations is one of the first steps in personal growth, without that a person has an incomplete foundation to build on.

Opinion: The more a person hides behind bravado the more they are slaves to their self constructed identity, the potential for growth is stifled, they become irrational, and even more unsuitable for a relationship.
I think that is why PUA stuff is very off putting, its so irrational that its like reading the rantings of a delusional person, utterly determined to protect their id.

AuntBlabby....I see a high amount of potential for redemption in you.

^AuntBlabby is one of the nicest people on this forum, it struck me from the start how he only had kind words for folk in the regular sub-forums. I remember reading in a post by OOM that he has a lovely speaking voice too.

I think AuntBlabby is Jesus.

And he's testing us.

I think he's more like Confucius, personally.

Confucius was more of an intellectual than Jesus.

Or Rumi.

He's ridiculously wise, imo.

In a good way, of course.

^^^^GOSH i'm speechless! thanx y'all

Being in love is better than being single, but a bad relationship is much worse than either one.