showing someone you like them

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Hah yep, "Hang on, let me figure out what page 'leaning forward' is on. Let's see....go to the appendix....L, here we go....page....476! OK, hold on, hold on, almost got it. Wait...'walking away,' damn, now I have to go back to the appendix!"

i didnt mean it like to be a sodding manual okay
they are just the techniques i've used and have found to work

they may not work for everyone though and i totally understand that and im not trying to get people to follow my adivce

its probably wrong anyway

I am one who has a tendency to do everything but take a direct approach, lol. This can include looking, but trying to hide that I am looking, sending poems, sending letters, watching them, throwing around hints that I expect them to somehow understand etc etc. Finally, I either give up or end up saying it directly in written form or letting someone else who knows them know my feelings. I am a terrible coward.

Me too.
I always end up liking someone I'm 99% sure doesn't like me back though, so it's probably a good thing for me.

yeah I have that problem too though I've been to shy to ever send poems or anything so when I like someone-nothing ever happens

Nothing ever happens with me either.

yeah...sucks don't it...

I know how you feel it won't be like this forever-someday we'll both get tired of being alone and get some guts

Yep. I don't like most of the girls I meet so if I do like someone, I like them a lot. I try to see any cues leaning one way or the other on how they feel but I never know if they're just in my head. I'm doomed to come on to strong unless the other person is just straight forward with me. If I decide it's not going to work and back off I always obsess over whether or not I pussied out too soon. I wish people would be blunt to me. Whatever it is they're going to say, I can handle it. I hate never knowing anything for sure.

That's funny. I was always the same way. Most girls were boy-crazy, getting crushes on every other cute boy in school or on tv. I was totally in love with ONE GUY from the time I was ten years old, and didn't take much notice of others. It was ALL or NOTHING. I'm that way about a lot of things, though. I wonder if it's an Aspie trait. I did date other guys and craved affection from them, but I never got back that ALL feeling I had for him.

Whether or not it's an aspie trait, I hear ya! I left highschool in a serious relationship that lasted 4 years. I can't make myself give a damn about dating now. I've spent the last four years alone. My friends give me a hard time for not wanting to go out there and get laid but what can I say? I don't want to put up with it. I just want to meet that someone again and move one with the rest of our lives. I hate knowing that I'm going have to get over this. It's just what you have to do.

I hear that Cowardice is a good safety valve, especially where almost-certainly unrequited love is concerned...

Three kids and several years of marriage later, I'm basically over it. My husband tries, every once in a while, to get me to throw out the box of momentos, including love letters. I just can't do it, though. It's like throwing away part of my life. I save letters from just about everyone, so why not those too? One thing that always bothered me about the break-up was that I, essentially, ended it permanently, since I was the first one to get married. Yes, he broke up with me and started dating others first; but people later told me that he came back for me, only to find that I was already engaged. I'm a hopeless romantic, so I made up my mind that if he really wanted me back, he would show up and stop the wedding. Didn't happen!

People don't really do THAT, do they? Seems like the wedding would be ruined, and the person being pursued would get pissed.

Oh me aswell me aswell and after that my face goes red and the worse my mum turns up oh how embarrassing

I've gotta be the worst guy at showing a girl I like her.
Whenever she walks past, I'm afraid to look her in the eye. That's gotta be giving the wrong impression.

Nah. I've probably got you beat. They come up to
me, and I stare at the ground and only speak
when spoken to. And then, only in non-committal
small phrases. A real silent Cal.

Not just girls though - pretty much anyone
I don't know.