01 May 2007, 10:07 am
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01 May 2007, 11:38 am
Eclair wrote:
You have to have at least some interests...and from what I can tell you LOVE cats...so well, you need a cat lover of some sorts...
or someone who loves you enough to deal with it anyway...but I think eventually you need to LOVE the same things or it just becomes an irritation to the other person because they feel they are giving you something by trying to share your interest.
or someone who loves you enough to deal with it anyway...but I think eventually you need to LOVE the same things or it just becomes an irritation to the other person because they feel they are giving you something by trying to share your interest.
A girl I know said her boyfriend told her that they have at least one thing in common: they both like him. She had the
reaction, naturally. It does help to have some other interests, and to not have many conflicting ones (like talking vs. silence).
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05 May 2007, 7:23 pm
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06 May 2007, 5:13 pm
Sopho wrote:
Is it better to be in a relationship with someone who shares the same interests as you?
Or would it not really matter as long as they didn't hate them?.
Or would it not really matter as long as they didn't hate them?.
it is very important in a relationship that couple share some interest, anyway, specially young people will interest by the same the partner do. I remember when I was young I honestly shared so many idiot opinions about many different subjects, still by now I feel shy about stupid things in which I really believed!
06 May 2007, 5:54 pm
Neuromancer wrote:
Sopho wrote:
Is it better to be in a relationship with someone who shares the same interests as you?
Or would it not really matter as long as they didn't hate them?.
Or would it not really matter as long as they didn't hate them?.
it is very important in a relationship that couple share some interest, anyway, specially young people will interest by the same the partner do. I remember when I was young I honestly shared so many idiot opinions about many different subjects, still by now I feel shy about stupid things in which I really believed!
I answered this question I set myself and a penpal.
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Q. Is it possible to get on with someone who has different interests?
A. Yes I think so. I would go as far to say that is probably best if people have differences. If get on with someone it has little to do with their main interest normally. I'm interested in what people are interested in. I enjoy them for what they are. I enjoy trying new things with them as long as I don't have to be serious or have to like everything. Yes there are things you find you have in common, mostly some group activities. You want to do these things with them. I guess that is what they call shared interest (obvious now lol). Some other things I'm interested, my main obsessions, are mostly solitary. I do talk about them but they are not shared. Nor do I expect people to like them. Sometimes people are interested other times I get blank looks. Its ok somehow you end up talking about other things. I like analysing anyway it doesn't matter what. Everyone has an opinion it is nothing to be ashamed of (peoples opinions see next question). I quite like racking the brain of someone who is also interested in my obsessions on the rare occasion I find one. I think these are more intellectual acquaintances. I like to keep my obsessions solitary. I don't like anyone who is too prying or arrogant. Aside from friendship as an interest I don't expect to be entertained by anyone. I'm quite happy doing my interests there is always something to do. I hope I will get better at finding shared things to do for the sake just having a good time when we meet up. I like it when everyone is enjoying themselves in whatever way they like.....
A. Yes I think so. I would go as far to say that is probably best if people have differences. If get on with someone it has little to do with their main interest normally. I'm interested in what people are interested in. I enjoy them for what they are. I enjoy trying new things with them as long as I don't have to be serious or have to like everything. Yes there are things you find you have in common, mostly some group activities. You want to do these things with them. I guess that is what they call shared interest (obvious now lol). Some other things I'm interested, my main obsessions, are mostly solitary. I do talk about them but they are not shared. Nor do I expect people to like them. Sometimes people are interested other times I get blank looks. Its ok somehow you end up talking about other things. I like analysing anyway it doesn't matter what. Everyone has an opinion it is nothing to be ashamed of (peoples opinions see next question). I quite like racking the brain of someone who is also interested in my obsessions on the rare occasion I find one. I think these are more intellectual acquaintances. I like to keep my obsessions solitary. I don't like anyone who is too prying or arrogant. Aside from friendship as an interest I don't expect to be entertained by anyone. I'm quite happy doing my interests there is always something to do. I hope I will get better at finding shared things to do for the sake just having a good time when we meet up. I like it when everyone is enjoying themselves in whatever way they like.....
06 May 2007, 6:16 pm
0_equals_true wrote:
[I answered this question I set myself and a penpal.
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Yes, a very complete answer!
