Can Men And Women Just Be Friends?

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Ok, dudes. Why is the poll not matching some of the answers being given? I think you guys are totally in denial.

This article says the following :

"According to sociologist Michael Kimmel, millennials are far more likely than older generations to see friendships between women and men as normal."

https://m.mic.com/articles/109480/scien ... .flf8l2weY

It's the younger generation that sees it differently. Well, thank goodness! I'm not crazy.

i think it's totally possible.


just not for me.

Why do you think it's possible, but you can't do it?

I answered "yes", but there is one requirement: It won't work if I get a crush on her when I first meet her, and it also won't work if we flirt with each others when we first meet. But if none of this happened, it works. I have several long-term female friends that proves it works.

i wish i could give you a complete, definitive answer.

i believe it's actually gotten easier for me to hold female platonic relationships, now that i have a girlfriend that i can "use" as an outlet for romantic feelings. fortunately she reciprocates.

but before that and even now to a lesser extent, most of my friends were female. i simply found it easier to spend time with them. i wasn't interested in what the guys were into. (i wasn't really into what the girls may have been into either, but i preferred the indifferent feeling over the more averse feeling)

i may have been stuck in the awkward position of being able to relate/speak with girls easier, while still being attracted to them.

Of course they can.

Since age came with the mention of millennials, I'm 38.

Yes absolutely! Most of my friends ( acquaintances rather) are female and i prefer female company, this has been since primary school.. I do however make it difficult when someone is interested in you as one i have a hard time reading that body language and dont take hints too well, im just not your ""typical"" blokey bloke type, over talking about beer , rugby and breasts , as i have mentioned before, find it all rather demeaning, and its as if they are competing with each other in conversation, the amount of times i have rolled my eyes in situations such as this is so often ive lost count... just prefer womens company, full stop.

Kip, I'd much rather women and girls 16 or above consent to having their brain re-wired to actually be more capable of falling in love with their guy friends.

It happens so rarely I do see and hear of many females who had to reject their male friend as she always saw things as strictly platonic and never anything more, not even 'What-ifs?'.

Maybe single women friends with single men can consent to the brain re-wiring and pay for it so they won't have to let down and hurt their male friends as often.

Of course, unrequited love is still possible as she may fall for one male friend and not the one who actually is attracted to her, but still.

Maybe both should exist.

Either way I do believe there's a general mismatch in desire for both sexes and men tend to be the victims of unrequited love far more often.

To be honest I don't vote in polls often even when I make a post stating my opinion.

I'm just lazy about these things but i'll get round to it.

At least from my posts one certainly knows what my answer is.

"i wish i could give you a complete, definitive answer.

i believe it's actually gotten easier for me to hold female platonic relationships, now that i have a girlfriend that i can "use" as an outlet for romantic feelings. fortunately she reciprocates.

but before that and even now to a lesser extent, most of my friends were female. i simply found it easier to spend time with them. i wasn't interested in what the guys were into. (i wasn't really into what the girls may have been into either, but i preferred the indifferent feeling over the more averse feeling)

i may have been stuck in the awkward position of being able to relate/speak with girls easier, while still being attracted to them."

"Of course they can.

Since age came with the mention of millennials, I'm 38."

Was this always true for you sir since 16, or only after a certain point?

E.g. maybe through your 20s you found purely platonic friendships with women less likely and more difficult to have.

A nurse asked, "Can Men And Women Just Be Friends?"

So I answered, "Of course, everything is possible."




(But I voted, Definitely Not. I'm a female. My brain says YES, while my heart says NO.)

There are two types of women a man keeps in his life; women he has had sex with, and women he hasn't had sex with....yet.

Absolutely.

Sometimes it's necessary to work through your feelings of attraction, and set up mental boundaries. But once you manage that, you can absolutely be platonic friends with people you are otherwise attracted to.

Sorry, but thats absurd! I have a number of female acquaintances that i have nooo interest remotely of being physical with, i have also had very good looking acquaintances again i have no interest of getting physical with. Im not attracted to people in that way of viewing them on their outside features. Compatible personalities and intellect, honesty, are at the top of the list for me anything outside of that is shallow and doomed for short term failure when talking about the physical!

I have several women friends. Yes, there are times when I feel sexual attraction for them.

That's why I'm glad we have this hallowed institution known as Masturbation.

Everybody (and I mean everybody) has sexual fantasies (both perverted and non-perverted) which cannot or will not be fulfilled. This is an inevitable part of life.

I value my friendships much more than I value "a little noogie." If I were to "try something" on any of my women friends, the friendship would be ruined.

Restraining one's impulses is an integral component of the concept of "being civilized." One cannot pounce on every woman in the street, even though the woman might be extremely attractive. Just like one cannot just punch somebody because that somebody offended them in some way.

I don't mean any disrespect by this, but the problem with the internet is that what people write and what they really feel sometimes differ. There is a something referred to as "White Knighting" when a man presents himself in an an exaggerated manner that he believes is attractive to the opposite sex in order to gain favour with them. Now I'm not saying that's what you're doing here, but I can't discount the possibility, especially when you claim you don't care about someone's appearance when it's an innate feature of almost every living creature and has been for millions of years. There may be some edge cases of men who have no interest in the women in their life "that way" but I doubt it is the norm, and exceptions don't make the rule.

Ahh, i see, well for me, no its how i have always been, im not ""acting"" in that respect at all, i have been at gatherings with just women only and have no interest other than conversation, maybe i value a friendship alot more as you will know being on the spectrum this can be an exceptionally hard area to master.. I also think especially with many of the extremely attractive women i have known , that when i get to know them, i get an ""off"" sense, and i mean in a compatibility way, i find personality, honesty and intellect more on the importance scale, it also maybe down to past negative treatments when being in relationships, i gained a different perspective of what others might feel as attractive as something maybe on more of a deeper level.. This is not the first time, this has been put across to me .. I have people i know assume im dating certain people because they have seen me ""hang"" around with them more than once or twice.. Maybe that may be true for most, but if anything i have more of an intrigue with people.. I did once have a one night stand when i was 17, and the other individual wanted a relationship, however i didnt, and i tend to remember past experiences as though they just happened, and this seemed to hurt her feelings somewhat, and since then i have never gone down that track.. There are many things in life for myself that is and will be trial and error and there are others such as that incident i wouldnt want to do to anyone again, so i dont know as i cant give examples based on other peoples thoughts only because i have only experienced my own... but that is just me and you wouldnt be the first not to ""get"", that Plus i enjoy female company and talk than i do male, again its just part of my many eccentricities