NT Falling For Aspie, and need some help!

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I've learned quite a bit on this forum. Since I can't read body language and facial expressions, not being able to see and all, I find those discussions interesting to read, among all the other deep discussions. Feel free to send me a PM.

Glad that you feel you're making progress. It's an interestingly subtle way you're going about it. I'm such a direct person that I don't think I could do what you're doing.

I wish I were more direct, because I'm afraid my suttle ways won't get me through the tougher transitions, especially, trying to kiss him. There's no way to do this on accident, when you're blind. LOL
However, since I know I will have to constantly be the pursuer it seems, I'm going to have to work on it. It took me a whole month to ask him out, and even then, I thought I was going to be sick, I was so nervous. LOL. I still get that way, each time I take this to a new level, worrying that something I do might make him uncomfortable, or might be too much of a sensory overload for him. That's why I came out here, looking to find others who could possibly relate to what I'm going through, or who can relate to his side of things, and could advise me as to what to do. Definitly feel free to PM me as well. I'd love to know how your relationship is progressing also.

About kissing: I don't know if this would work for the two of you. If I want to kiss someone, I just sort of touch their face or lean in slowly, so they can pull back at any time, and eventually we are kissing.

Not a bad idea, and I can get away with the touching of his face because of the blindness thing, so this might work... I rarely play the blind card, but in this case, I might have to break the rules. I love it! Brilliant!

It sounds like your carrying a lot of doubt. Maybe be honest with him a bit

Definitly not doubt, but perhaps the word you are looking for is apprehention? I have no doubts at all, when it comes to him. I'm just apprehensive, when it comes to making sure he is comfortable.

Oh OK fair enough