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Basically you have to be subtle, even with easy girls.

This thread reminds me of the Kevin Bloody Wilson approach.

Because different body parts are associated with different levels of intimacy.

Hands, arms, and shoulders are considered way less intimate than pelvic areas, bums, and thighs -- and bums/thighs/pelvic area are the parts that would be touching if a woman sits on your lap. (It doesn't matter that it would be through clothes.)

Most people don't want to go from no intimacy/barely any intimacy (sitting close and touching hand to arm could be either) straight to having their most intimate body areas touching yours -- even if you are both wearing clothes and even if they are attracted to you sexually.

Most people would want to get more intimate in smaller steps.....I wish I could tell you what those smaller steps might look like, but I don't know. I always follow the other person's lead, and I think I miss a lot before it gets to the point where I know they are sexually interested.



Yes, way above the friend zone. An adult sitting on another adult's lap is virtually always considered sexual/romantic -- not something you do with platonic friends.

Naaaa. You can't say that. They think that the next thing you'll say is "Sit on my lap and let's talk about the first thing that pops up." They get mad because they think you're getting sexual way too fast. Don't do that. Act as if you're talking to a family member at a wedding and follow all the appropriate manners that you can. They don't know for a fact that you have asperger's. Asperger's is a popular topic today - the minute you step out of line, people automatically say, "what do you have asperger's or something?!" It's because of television. "The Big Bang Theory". How would a girl like it if you were to say,"what are you a prude or something?"Or, "Oh My, the bloody virgin mary won't sit on my lap!"
Most people should just go F themselves.

Next time, just ask a girl if she wants to join you.

Well when you put it that way, it does make sense but you gotta be careful because now is not the time where you wanna mess around with random women. They're coming out against inappropriate comments and actions done by the men these days so just be careful.

If you don't understand why this is inappropriate then I suggest you watch The Woodsman.

Hi-well my take on it is that flirting is a subtle (and for more skilled people) way of showing interest. Going straight to "Do you want to sit on my lap?" was too blunt, as others have also said. And you said you asked that because it arouses you, well maybe the girl doesn't want to sit on your lap and feel your boner. Flirting isn't neccessarily an expression of sexual interest, (it can be with some people). I agree that spectrum dwellers as a group aren't the best at flirting, which is why I approach communication with the opposite gender by simply being honest and sincere. I mean don't get me wrong, I have managed to navigate relationships of a sexual nature without leaving too much destruction in my wake, but it's never been easy. When I was younger I imbibed in large amounts of liquid courage. Haha. One of the truer sentiments I've experienced as an aspie personally is that "you learn as you go."

You weren't forceful, you asked and they weren't interested. Sometimes this is just how things will play out. Every one has different things they're into. Maybe those girl weren't into it but some other girl may have enjoyed the advance. As long as you are being respectful (and you were), then this is just that part where on this particular day, those girls weren't interested.

Why was this nearly two year old thread bumped back in April and this month?

guys would say yes if a girl asked "do you want too feel my boobs"