Outrider wrote:
I don't see any 'divide' here.
It seems the majority here believe online dating is pointless (typically men) and a small collection (typically women) have found some sort of success with it and try to push it on the men arguing it can work when it working for a man is a staistical anomaly.
Sure, for every woman that ends up with a man, a man ends up with a woman, but the women here are only telling their side of the story.
Typically, they say something like they were using online dating for 1-2 years, did not receive hordes of messages (but at least recieved some, and some is more than none, which is what men typically receive, and even if 7/10 messages the woman receives are low-quality, e.g. perverted or generic, there's still at least 3 decent guy's in there, also more than a man could ever hope for) but what we rarely here is what the man had to go through.
Typically despite women also having difficulty with online dating, which I am not denying, the men had more difficulty.
I remember Alliekit mentioning she was using online dating for a year and sometimes messaging a guy she;'s interested in,r before she met her boyfriend, but he was using online dating for about 2 years and messaging vast amounts of women.
This means he had to put in TWICE the amount of effort, and found online dating TWICE as hard.
Even then I'd say a male is lucky if he finds online dating twice as hard as women, a more realistic figure would be 3-5 times harder, as I've seen some male users here in the past claim to message hundreds, if not thousands of women in the span f 5-10 years and not find any success from it.
Actually it was me who was online dating for 2 years. My boyfriend was only on their for about a month. I also never said he messaged vast amounts of women, yea he made a effort to message people but I wasn't like a hundred.
17 Jul 2016, 2:29 am
