Sexual Invisibility

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Ha! Thanks, Kraftie. Truly, I know I'm not sexually invisible. I think it's easy to feel that way if you're going through a period of rejection, or need to work on your self-esteem. Things aren't so bad now, really, but it was a thought I've had at times and tried analyzing somewhat recently. I hope to grow old, not up.

I can pretty much say with certainty that I have it. The simple fact of repelling people with my mere presence tends to do that.

The idea of being Sexually invisible is that: not only you're not seen unattractive by the majority of the opposite sex (at least in your demography), but also neither of two genders can even fathom the idea that you can ever be in a relationship with anyone - or take you for granted that you're always single.

^ not seen attractive*

I've always been one of those. It is as much to be taken for granted that others will have relationships, unless they don't want to, as it is that I won't. Business as usual.

I've been sexually invisible my whole life. I fought it tooth and nail, and have achieved many great relationships, including sex. It's not because I'm better, or smarter, or superior in any way. If anything, it's because I'm stubborn. I'm too stubborn to doubt myself for long. I kept trying no matter what, and even the negative stimuli still found some way to spur me forward.

This is why you and I have had such disagreements before. I'm not trying to make you conform. I'm trying to show you something without being invalidated for it.

Been most of my life, wasn't been interested until i was 21-22, at 23 i had a GF, but since then my sexlife has been like the Kalahari desert. Recently stopped caring and haven't been on a date since 2012.

CBA to try anymore and i've deleted my dating profiles, only ones that "want to be with me" are women from a certain country because of my job in the armed forces, and i'm really not that desperate - or stupid.