"We met at the supermarket."

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i once got a friend at a supermarket when i told a woman to get out my way because i wanted to look at some meat.
she was aghast at what she perceived as my rudeness and she engaged me in conversation as in
girl: who the hell do you think you are
me: i have been waiting for more than a minute for you to do your inspection, and considering you failed to make a choice in that time, i just asked you to step aside for a second so i could get some meat.
girl: no that wasn't it.....
blah blah blah i can't remember it well because it was so long ago, but she wound up being a permanent friend that i retain to this day.

supermarkets are where you must interact with people because they get in your way, whereas so few other places are.

it has been my experience that supermarkets are mighty lonesome places to be if one hopes to find companionship.

If a cute guy talked to me in the grocery store, heck yeah, I'd talk to him! Library? Nope, I'm too busy with my homework. I also don't go to bars, or school anymore. I do make it out to the grocery store though.

Cold approaching women politely is not harassment.

There's nothing wrong with cold approaching women at day time in open, well-lit public spaces where you provide no threat to her as the second you try to do something wrong she can call for help and every healthy man, woman and child in the vicinity will rush to her aid.

No one is going to make me feel intrusive or demonized simply for speaking to a stranger in public.

I think cold approaching should only be done as a last resort, but for many of us it is necessary and our only way of ever having ANY sort of contact with the opposite sex.

i have, when young, cold-approached women before, politely, and was either ignored or treated with hostility. so at least from what I could tell, there are at least some women who, if they don't like your looks or vibrations, will take any attention you pay to them with the cold shoulder at best, or outright hostility.

If you don't feel like talking to anybody, it's not cool for somebody to force you to talk.

I get in that mood sometimes. I don't really feel like talking.

If somebody asks directions: fine.

But just to engage in conversation. Please....let me read my paper!

I just mean when you try to talk to a stranger politely.

If they aren't interested in speaking, then of course the polite thing to do is to end it there.

But just trying to make small talk with a stranger and then letting them be if they don't want to talk isn't wrong.

It isn't too bad.

When I was younger, I always wanted to talk to somebody, especially those I took a fancy to. It was difficult, at times, to restrain myself.

Anybody ever watch the "Happy Days" episode where Richie Cunningham tried to run into ladies' shopping carts in order to try to talk to them?

To Boo:

It's not always even about "the woman being paranoid" -- for me it's not "paranoia" in any way, shape or form. It's actually exactly like kraftie said -- I'm usually not in the mood to talk to anyone or be talked to, as I said in my own post I used the words "I'm in no mood."

Now, don't get me wrong, that doesn't mean I'm a jerk if someone does talk to me. Like Outrider is saying, as long as someone is polite, I'm polite back but I do want to get out of the conversation.

I'm autistic, don't process fast, hate the unexpected, and have a truckload of issues with the process of just doing my shopping, regarding sensory and executive functioning, lol. So that's the only reason why I personally, just speaking for myself, would be a woman who doesn't want this in the supermarket.

Nothing to do with paranoia -- some people are just not in the mindset to be picked up. Now if that person takes that mindset to a club or party or concert -- then sure that's messed up.

But in a store I'm just saying that while you will find people perfectly happy to get a conversation struck up with a stranger, you may find those who don't see it as a place they want that, and that's okay, not paranoia. Just them being alone in their thoughts and their task.

I resent someone always thinking it's necessarily "paranoia" just to prefer to be allowed to stay with one's inner life in a public place.

It's a trouble way for men.

So I advise men not to try it.

/End of story.

/dictatorship.