Is this a common trait amongst aspie men?

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14 Sep 2016, 12:05 am

I'm sure it's not common because it's a ridiculous trait to have.

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14 Sep 2016, 12:17 am

Is there a certain way to know if a woman is in a relationship besides just flat-out asking her?

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14 Sep 2016, 6:49 am

Grammar Geek wrote:

Is there a certain way to know if a woman is in a relationship besides just flat-out asking her?

Yes, they will usually tell you very quickly in a subtle way: usually by casually mentioning it. Of course, I was oblivious to subtleties!

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14 Sep 2016, 11:49 am

In general it's much easier for autistic and NT women alike to get relationships

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14 Sep 2016, 11:56 am

I cannot say I have ever done that and nor do I intend to. Without wanting to seem too sanctimonious, to pursue a woman (or man for that matter) who is already in a relationship seems wrong to me.

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14 Sep 2016, 7:07 pm

Jamesy wrote:

In general it's much easier for autistic and NT women alike to get relationships

NT females probably have an easier time getting relationships than those of us on the spectrum, like NT males probably generally have an easier time than guys on the spectrum.

I think that is more accurate.

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14 Sep 2016, 7:12 pm

Jamesy wrote:

Do you think it's quite a common trait for aspie men to chase after women who are already in commited relationships? Because we don't understand what is and what is not appropriate?

It's a really good way to get the s**t kicked out of you mercilessly... just saying. Seriously you better learn, for your own sake to control that.

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14 Sep 2016, 7:36 pm

Unless you want to become enemies with her boyfriend, then I'd say you should probably listen to your friend.

And you should also respect her if she says no or not, because she means it.

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14 Sep 2016, 8:21 pm

FluttercordAspie93 wrote:

Unless you want to become enemies with her boyfriend, then I'd say you should probably listen to your friend.

And you should also respect her if she says no or not, because she means it.

No to what?

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14 Sep 2016, 8:30 pm

Your desire to be her boyfriend.

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14 Sep 2016, 8:53 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

Your desire to be her boyfriend.

Yes but it would be morally wrong to attempt to ask her out since she would be in a long term relationship.

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14 Sep 2016, 8:56 pm

So...if you know that....then what's the fuss?

If it's only thoughts, and you don't act on them, there's nothing wrong with them.

As long as you don't act on your thoughts.

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14 Sep 2016, 9:31 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

So...if you know that....then what's the fuss?

If it's only thoughts, and you don't act on them, there's nothing wrong with them.

As long as you don't act on your thoughts.

Give me an example of acting on a thought?

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14 Sep 2016, 11:57 pm

You can think about talking to a girl.....but you might not act on talking to the girl.

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15 Sep 2016, 11:00 am

Jamesy, you say in your OP that you are "chasing after" these women. So only you can tell us if you're actually doing something or just thinking about them. Examples of doing something would be flirting with her, asking her out, hitting on her etc

If you know it's inappropriate (and potentially dangerous) and you're not actually doing anything, then indeed what is all the fuss about?

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15 Sep 2016, 3:48 pm

minliu wrote:

I've experienced it a few times.

thank God time heals all wounds for I would hate to feel rejected on a daily basis. if that was the case I'd lose my sanity as a human being.

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