So depressing.....

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as for my family, i have 12 cousins+siblings, most of them older than me. three are married, but i don't envy any of them at all. one has a clearly dysfunctional marriage, the one who just got married probably will too, and the other one deals with eating/anxiety disorders and denial about it. my three most professionally-successful cousins show no sign that they're going to get married anytime soon

lol, the site keeps blocking me every time i try to message you, i have no idea why

Feeling better, Sir?

Most of my cousins are married or in long term relationships while I have almost no experience with relationships.

The thing that freaks me out is how young all these younger people getting married are.

I'm like, "you don't even know who you are yet!"

I'm glad I didn't get married to anyone I had interest from. We weren't compatible. I've changed so much as well.

I know that it's only my experience and possibly these young people are meeting compatible partners, but I do wonder how many settle for someone who is wrong for them because they are scared they'll get left on the shelf.

If more people didn't pair up with the wrong person and took their time I think that they would find someone more compatible and there would less unhappy relationships and more available people at an age where people know who they really are.

Not that younger below the norm....

24.... 25 getting engaged or married, especially the girls, isn't much below the norm (which is around 26-27 nowadays).

When I was a teen I was used to babysit some of those.

It is me who passed beyond the norm.

There's a guy I work with who is 64, straight, and happily single.

He still wears 70s leisure suits.

Being a bachelor isn't a big deal; you're free to pursue your own hobbies goals, interests, etc.

Being alone and doing things you love is a helluva lot better than being forced to live with someone you can't stand.

(Plus the idea that just "finding someone" will automatically solve you your personal problems is baloney anyway, especially considering the rapid divorce rates and multitudes of dysfunctional couples and families).

Society doesn't even 'pressure marriage' because it cares about the individuals or wants them to "find love", it just pressures it because it's considered beneficial to the economy (e.x. replenishes the population), and a lot of people just go with the herd and settle for relationship with someone who isn't a catch instead of waiting until they meet someone who they're genuinely compatible with.

I know it's better to be alone than in an unhappy relationship, but it gets more difficult to meet someone compatible as you get older because there are less single people your own age around.

We have something inside us that makes us want to give and recieve romantic love (or eros if you want). It's not wrong to want that.

When people were asking me what people are saying to me offline that makes me so upset it's pretty much verbatim
What soulsparrer has just written.

Shaming people for being human isn't right.

Relationships are too much hard work for me. I can seldom express how I feel, so I end up expressing my affection for someone else by inappropriately buying them expensive gifts. What makes matters worse is my inability to feel what I would call "authentic desire". Everything in my life feels rather forced and contrived, and relationships are certainly no exception.

However, I am worried that I will turn into a rather bitter and contemptuous human being if I remain isolated over the next few years.

Also, the couples do fun things and don't invite us and the post it on instagram.