What are the requirements for love?

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I don't think power freaks have much to do with it. Just like there's a certain personality type that can only accept the company of perfect people, there's a type that feels a lot more comfortable around those who are far from narcissistic. I may have been wrong to associate self esteem with ego, but I don't mean people who think they're so worthless, they become ineffectual lumps taking up space. Low self-esteem may be part of it, but it's more like a deep sense of humbleness and a recognizing of one's own unimportance in the grand scheme of things. I think it's got a lot to do with the way the freaks and geeks always sit at a different table than the popular people in school. I always hung out with the dejected, picked-on folks in my high school because they were invariably more forgiving of others' quirks and mistakes and were generally a lot more fun to be around.

And believe it or not, I've seen many happy relationships formed between a couple of sad "losers" who've found they can be comfortable around each other. It's not lower standards, but it's different standards.

The line that always sticks in my mind is 'Thy belly is like a heap of wheat'

You no you love sumone when:

you recognise there faults but these just make you love them even more

more than ennything else in the world you want them to be happy

youd do ennything for them, including give your own life if need be

Im sure i can think of a few more but they just dont come to mind rite now

I've always wondered if we are capable of love, or understanding love. Or at least love as everyone else knows it.

I know I feel affection for many friends, but I wouldn't say I love them (as in love for a friend). This applies even for friends that I've known for seven years. I've never been in a relationship long enough to come to the stage of love.

I know some of my extended love me by the way they talk to me after not seeing me for a year, but it doesn't affect me much. It brightens my day to talk to someone who wants to talk to me and find out how I've been, but I don't feel love.

Can any loved Aspies enlighten me here? Is there a light at the end of the tunnel? Or is that the A-train?