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If she really wants to date you I say go for it. At that age, you would most likely not be the last person she expects to date. Even if you have to dump her, it would be easier to dump somebody matching your description of her than most single women you're likely to meet.

BTW I think your joke is hilarious. But I'm a weirdo with an inappropriate sense of humor.

You'd be suprised how many guys it puts off

Why does that put guys off?  

Because while the knowledge of anatomy is a plus when you start talking about you research they don't often like it.

I think sometimes because its about sick people so they feel uncomfortable.

Sadly though sometimes some men just feel intimidated (this is of course not as often).

I'm lucky my fiancee loves the anatomy knowledge and is happy to listen about my research.

Are you doing medical research? If yes, that is so cool  

I contemplated contacting but then I remembered what I was reminded of on this thread. If it's meant to be, she will make contact with me. And she did

I had my reservations before but now I'm starting to grow rather fond of her. She's really got her head on straight.

She's actually more intelligent than I first gave her credit for. I just had to get to know her. First impressions are often the least accurate.

Yep being a typical aspie sometimes I get caught up in it and forget that the topic may sometimes not be appropriate.

I could not dump somebody, unless they could answer me this compound question- "what percentage do you want me? what percentage do you NOT want me? what percentage of the "not want" could potentially swing to "want"? this would open up a door for a detailed discussion of needs/wants/fulfilment/non-fulfilment that would educate the potential ex to decide if s/he really wants me to hang around or not. IOW if they dumped me after all that, then it was basically 100% their idea, so no drama.

After reading your joke, I'm guessing that what happened is this:

Your joke wasn't very funny. Maybe she's not the target audience for it, or maybe it's just a bad joke. But either way, the joke fell flat. It didn't warrant a laugh, a giggle, or even a satisfied smirk.
To avoid making you feel bad, she pretended that she didn't get the joke, so it seems like the lackluster comedy routine is her fault instead of yours.

Secondly, you have to keep in mind that a lot of women have a tendency to feign ignorance and downplay their knowledge, to fulfill some oppressive ideal of femininity. I know I'm pretty guilty of that myself. I really hate the game sometimes.

That type of joke is honestly pretty tedious. Drawing it out for ages just to reach some simple punchline. Easy to see why that wouldn't get a laugh.

Then you're talking to the wrong men. If you have to feign ignorance to be attractive to someone, why would you want to be with that person?

Good point.

I'm pretty lucky that I have a boyfriend who respects me as an equal. I know I never have to hide my intelligence or knowledge, but sometimes I still do it. It's become kind of a habit I guess.

^ Sorry but associating ignorance with femininity is ridiculous, and I personally know no male who finds that attractive.

It's in your head.

I am not surprised at all, most people don't like to talk science in outings.
If it's not about cars, clothes, sports and events then it's boring for them.

I don't want her to hide her intelligence. Actually, if I met a girl who was a scientist, that would be a massive turn on for me.


That is correct. About 3 years ago I dated a girl who had below average intelligence and this was a humungous turnoff for me.


Taking about science during a date would be a dream come true for me.

The thing is if you date a scientist they won't make the effort to dress up all the time because being busy with work. I personally love looking nice and wearing make up but it just isn't practical.

Because of this alot of the time I don't wear makeup, wear glasses, wear jeans (spillages happen) and look tired.

I have to admit that similarly to Barchan I have been quite about my intelligence because of previous experiences of people being not very nice about it.

Edit: I don't speak for all scientists

The vast majority of decent men would treat you WELL because of your intelligence.

It's the idiots with old-fangled ideas who don't like intelligent women; they're not worth a woman's time.