Casual Racism on Dating Sites

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It was only for her own benefit - the sons will get the money regardless whether he re-marries their mother or not, no?

I believe in marrying for money the second time around. His parents left him VERY well off. Just because I'm aspie doesn't mean I'm dumb.

Excuse me but that money belongs to my two boys. My husband fathered both. That racist is their father.

I am a Middle Eastern Aspie and I find my dating options are further limited because of my skin colour. I would say I am attracted to Caucasian women primarily because of the British Culture I was born into. And I like to model myself on the quintessential British Gentlemen (I know, I know its Social Echolalia). However, I feel the blinders come up because of the colour of my skin. I've even had it said to me by acquaintances that they only ever date white guys or guys over six foot so that makes it 0 for 2.

I try and tell myself they don't know what they're missing and it won't matter to the right girl but in my darkest/lonely moments I curse my skin colour and my Aspergic nature and wish it wasn't so f*****g hard.

And as for going out/marrying someone for their money I find that deeply deplorable and slightly sad that you don't have that connection to someone. But the older I get, the more I realise people settle not just out of resignation but out of Status Quo or fear of being alone.

Very true. Still a smart move, though. She isn't losing credibility for it, she gains it.

:lol:

I will help RightGalaxy in the outline

Lesson I: The secret of finding the rich man.

Lesson II: How to disregard your own dignity for the sake of the rich man.

Lesson III: How to have sex with the rich man like a pornstar.

Lesson IV: How to divorce the rich man (Detailed plan)

Lesson V: How to remarry the rich man in order to divorce him again.

^ and still she would not date poor people.


Anyway, ladies...listen... this is something that you should all know about; I am gonna be extremely extremely blunt in this, take notes - especially if you are struggling in dating and you want to increase your chances to make men approach you:

Like how women usually collectively hate men who are sex-seeker and players , we men - in the manosphere, - when we are a in room only men talking without any female presence, and when men talk about women: there's nothing more commonly and collectively hated and despised than the gold-diggers.

And yes, all men - of all sizes, old and young, education levels and classes - no exception. And the ones who would willingly go for usually view them as sex-to-money kind of exchange deal.

And there are plenty types of them, the obvious ones, the subtle ones and the ones who claim to be 'pragmatic' but in fact money is more important to them than love.

The older we get, the better we develop skill to recognize them all, and we can smell them by miles.

And like women often warn each other about players and sex maniacs, men also often warn each other from money seekers and gold diggers ie. "hey, don't waste your time with that gal, she only is after money....<little story about a short encounter with her>".

And men - probably for a good reason and cumulative experiences - are so quickly judgmental about that and quickly would put a woman in the "gold digger zone" for the slightest sign or vibe of it - in a merciless way. At times unfairly.

For instance if a girl in office talked so excitedly about her weekend date's expensive car - you would see guys subtly rolling eyes to each other, and I can guarantee you that 99% of them would goldigger-zone her for good - and everyone(male) would avoid dating her, at least seriously, like a plague.

Or even if she complains about her bf's low salary, or some WOW reaction to some guy driving expensive car....etc.....any slight sign..... *puff* goldigger zoned, instantly.

I recall an incident, where a newly hired colleague in my previous work office kept talking like for an hour excitedly about her boyfriend's senior engineer position and his parent's big house - and once she left the room , my male colleague was like 'she is a nice girl, but too bad she loves money too much' - and that came from a guy who is a son of a rich famous surgeon; the other guys agreed.

And most men keep constantly vigilant and checking for any gold-digging signs from a woman they're dating, even frequently - my best friend, who was also my coworker, told me how he first kept dropping hints and subtle questions to his gf back then (who's his wife now) like "I am still building my future, and we may live in a tiny house and not in perfect condition, would you accept this" - and watched for her reactions - he watched her reaction when he first picked up with his poorly-condition car too, and he told me that she was unlike all the other girls he dated before and that's why he married her.

In fact, when our office went bankrupt , she kept sticked with him for 6 months while he's jobless, despite that she just works as a junior kindergarten teacher, so she doesn't make much. In the other hands, two seniors got divorced just after few month of the bankrupt - despite their wives worked in good positions elsewhere.

That just to tell you, why we (men) are usually paranoid about this - and I was used to think that these men exaggerate but after getting some dating experience after 30.... hell no, it's not something uncommon, it's not uncommon at all. I understand now why most men are so paranoid about this...."social disease".

And yes, most would label the OP as gold-digger too.

So if you're single and seek and don't want to be viewed as one, be very careful what you talk about when it comes to money.

PS: I have seen the same phenomena among men in Turkey, and Czech Republic (and among male colleagues there who are of different nationalities: Brits, Italians, Czechs...etc) and - so it's not only limited within some culture.

/ The most non-political post on WP ever. But this is a reality.

Your reasoning is sound Boo but it wouldn't make a difference.

Gold-digger types are after partners who'll date gold-diggers, often fully aware there's a transaction at play.

Those wise to gold-diggers, or repulsed by them, or just not willing to be taken in by them, are not even on the gold-digger's radar. Hence there isn't really an audience for your advice (that would actually care about it).

Do girls really make a big deal over fancy cars, that's weird to me.

I've got Kanye in my head now .

Some men like bragging about it though, and like praise from women.