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Hexen
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08 Jan 2017, 9:19 pm

Alliekit wrote:
Hexen wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
Hexen wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
Maybe making friends with a girl would help with the social skills and become used to being around women :)

That depends. A man usually has to show romantic interest with a woman quick, even if they start as friends; else she won't know he's interested and might windup dating someone else. Timing is everything. You don't want to rush, but you damn sure don't want to move at a slow pace.


But I'd he is aware it's strictly friends to start with it may not be so bad

I'm not sure what you mean. Do you mean, if he knew she only wanted him as a friend and nothing more? Most girls won't just come out and say that, because they wouldn't want to hurt a guy's feelings. It's ALL about subtly with women, NTs, AS, it doesn't matter. I'm lucky enough that I've high functioning and can pick up on most things now.


If she already had a partner then it would obviously be purely friendship

How would he know if she does, or does not; what if she doesn't?



Alliekit
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08 Jan 2017, 9:23 pm

Hexen wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
Hexen wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
Hexen wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
Maybe making friends with a girl would help with the social skills and become used to being around women :)

That depends. A man usually has to show romantic interest with a woman quick, even if they start as friends; else she won't know he's interested and might windup dating someone else. Timing is everything. You don't want to rush, but you damn sure don't want to move at a slow pace.


But I'd he is aware it's strictly friends to start with it may not be so bad

I'm not sure what you mean. Do you mean, if he knew she only wanted him as a friend and nothing more? Most girls won't just come out and say that, because they wouldn't want to hurt a guy's feelings. It's ALL about subtly with women, NTs, AS, it doesn't matter. I'm lucky enough that I've high functioning and can pick up on most things now.


If she already had a partner then it would obviously be purely friendship

How would he know if she does, or does not; what if she doesn't?


Because girls usually talk about there partners



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08 Jan 2017, 10:06 pm

Alliekit wrote:
Because girls usually talk about there partners


...and they tend to mention their partner especially quick when a fellow they don't know approaches them with romantic intentions.

Unless, of course, she's interested enough in you that she'd rather you NOT know about her boyfriend; however, that sort of thing happens more often when you meet the girl at a bar or club than when you find her at a church service.