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kraftiekortie
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03 Jan 2017, 2:58 pm

I wonder what happened.

Try to text her to ask her what happened.

If she doesn't answer, she "ghosted" you.

Go on to the next girl.



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03 Jan 2017, 3:10 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Go on to the next girl.


I'm running out of "next girls." I've been doing this for years, and nothing good has come of it. But if I quit online dating, I quit romance altogether because there's no way I'm ever going to meet someone in person. Whatever it is that women want, I obviously don't have it. Sorry to be overdramatic, but it probably is for the best that I just quit.


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03 Jan 2017, 3:15 pm

You're still a very young guy. It's not worth quitting now.

The girls don't know what they're missing.

Has she responded to you?



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03 Jan 2017, 4:54 pm

ThisAdamGuy, do you remember my advice in your old thread when you were complaining that your date was never initiating texting you so I told you to hold it for few days and....tada, she initiated texting with you?

Good, so believe my advice.

Send her this as last text: "Hi, I am not sure if you are receiving my texts; anyway I thought I should let you know that I won't be able to have lunch with you any day this coming week. I have new plans now with someone I've met on okcupid; I had a coffee with her today and tomorrow lunch+movie - so far she sounds very great! Thank you for your time before, have a nice evening."

She might gonna back to you like late night tomorrow asking you something like "So, how has it gone?".

When she does that, don't reply, go back to this thread for further instructions.



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04 Jan 2017, 10:25 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
ThisAdamGuy, do you remember my advice in your old thread when you were complaining that your date was never initiating texting you so I told you to hold it for few days and....tada, she initiated texting with you?

Good, so believe my advice.

Send her this as last text: "Hi, I am not sure if you are receiving my texts; anyway I thought I should let you know that I won't be able to have lunch with you any day this coming week. I have new plans now with someone I've met on okcupid; I had a coffee with her today and tomorrow lunch+movie - so far she sounds very great! Thank you for your time before, have a nice evening."

She might gonna back to you like late night tomorrow asking you something like "So, how has it gone?".

When she does that, don't reply, go back to this thread for further instructions.

I can't believe I'm saying this, but for once I'm gonna have to agree with Boo! :lol:

I have an ex I've LONG moved on from. She's happily married with 2 kids after having dumped me TWICE and she still stalks me online. At this point it's kinda cute, so I tolerate it.

Yeah...

I'm with Boo on this one. I'd really like to see where this goes.



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05 Jan 2017, 8:32 am

I don't know how your message exchange went earlier, but I figured since I read the thread I'd post my thoughts.

I do wonder if your text exchange was going fine and then she was busy in real life with something and didn't get back to you right away.. and then you messaged her again, and again, etc and if that's what made her decide to ghost you vs. reply??

Sometimes people get busy for a while and don't reply.. but they were going to. Then bombarding them with messages, especially ones asking why they're not replying, is a trigger for them to go "whoa, this guy is waaaay too needy for my text replies.. that's a major red flag & I'm no longer interested," and then they simply ghost you vs. expend any further energy communicating with you.

Maybe that's not what happened at all. But it is a mistake some people make, so I figured I'd point out that possibility.

Or maybe she was simply chatting up several people at once and had a "better" option she decided to further communications with while ghosting you. That's a possibility, too.


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