Visiting Love Interests At Work

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True. But emails are problematic. My email settings send everything to spam unless they're in my contacts. I regularly check my spam, but not everyone does and I still have important stuff slip through from the sheer volume of junk I get. Sending email to a business account is an honest mistake the first time. Personal emails are where important info goes to die. Maybe that's what she intended, but how can we know?

If it were me, I'd make myself scarce and come back in a week to follow up. As long as he's not making her feel uncomfortable, it's not harassment and he's safe. I WOULD make a note whether she's out-of-pocket again when I dropped by, since it's possible she got a co-worker to run interference. The first time is an accident. Twice is a problem, and I'd make a point to avoid her entirely the next time I have legit business at the library.

I'd also strongly suggest never getting attached to someone you're attracted to that you don't know. Sometimes it's just best to admire someone from afar, since the real person is likely not the idealized person in your head.

Just forget it man, if she was interested she would have emailed you.

Be a man, don't be a lapdog.

Even just approaching a person in public is better than this. He targeted a specific stranger and went to her workplace. Put yourself in her shoes; some guy you've never met before tracked you down. That's f*****g scary.

^But he has big balls, we should admit that

I didn't even dare to add or message a girl on facebook whom I talked with for 2 hours in plane (more accurately she talked 90% of the time non-stop), even though she told me her full name.
It felt so slalkerish, we have no mutual friends in order to claim that It was suggested (by the fb system) to me or that I recognized her in some friend's photo.

That or he's desperate and has a total disregard for social boundaries, which seems to be a common trait among people here.

One more thing. I agree with the poster that it would have been ok to chat with her a bit in the library....maybe ask her out on the third occasion or so if she seemed interested....I don't really know, I don't really understand the concept of dating.

That said, asking her co-worker when she'd be in is something that raises red flags for women. Actually, I had that situation at work recently. Some guy asked me about my co-worker, where she lived. I said I didn't know, which was the truth, but honestly, I'd have lied through my teeth even if I knew. It would have been completely unacceptable for me to give out that kind of personal information. At the very least he could have asked her himself. Asking a colleague signals deception, it's not the kind of signal you want to send.

And don't introduce yourself over email, it's a monologue, not a conversation.

I avoid my girlfriend's place of work like the plague! I don't want to embarass her in front of her co-workers because I love her so much!

She works at a restaurant close to my college campus, so that's my explanation for anyone who reads this.

Seine you found her on FaceBook, the right thing to do would have been message her on FB. Going to her workplace & contacting her by her work email makes you look like a stalker. She would of emailed you back if she was interested so she was just being polite(maybe because her work emails get read) & was hoping you'd get the hint. The ball's in her court now so leave her alone.

Yeah it likely would have been better to have just sent her a facebook messege or a friend request...then if she was interested she could have responded. I imagine it would be kind of strange if you get an email from someone you don't know who you've never even seen a picture of that says 'hey I saw your facebook profile and was wondering if you want to get together sometime.' I mean yeah it could be a little creepy.

I don't have an FB profile & I get spam emails like that for some dating/hookup site.