Can you be happy while you're single?

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@Boo Of course.
I don't sleep around though, I have like a designated person for that who is tested and such. I don't see the point in having loads of sexual partners because it sexually connects you to an entire massive web of people and if you contracted a disease you'd have to go around to the web of people and tell them to get checked or whatever.

The girls I've dated since her were so boring. One only talked about her job and it was a boring job. She operated the photocopier.

If my next girlfriend isn't as good as my last I'll spend the whole relationship thinking about how I blew it with the last one.

I'm not even sure I want to date for fear that my next relationship will be a downgrade

It figures that she got a new partner faster than me. I'm slow at everything. It took me about a decade to find her so it will probably take me a decade to find another girl. By then I'll be 40.

I'm being selfish. She's better off without me. I was a crappy boyfriend. She's happier with him than she was with me. It's better that I don't inflict my crappiness onto her or any other girls. I'm not fit to be anyone's boyfriend and I never will be.

Honestly, I guessed that's your case.

I think that's the key difference between happy singles and unhappy singles: sex whenever is needed.

Most single guys here aren't having sex either (because let's face it, it is enormously harder for average males to get a casual sexual partner; there are way more guys willing for casual sex than women out there) - and the single women who are unhappy here are also the ones who won't have sex outside of a LT due to some beliefs.

As for you, you're having your freedom and fulfilling your intimate/sexual needs in the same time. So yeah... I can see why this is a happy single life, having the best from both worlds.

Yeah I agree, it's a lot easier like this honestly and not having to worry about anything is so nice. There's no impending doom of them getting bored of you or whatever. It really is the best of both worlds because life now feels more open and free.

As for single guys it can be pretty s**t yeah but I do have friends who go to legal brothels, primarily a German guy I'm friends with. He simply doesn't have that problem because it's pretty normal there apparently so if you're desperate for sex then the problem is pretty much solved because it's not dirty and disgusting like it is in a lot of other countries, it's professional, safe & clean from what I'm told.

My friend said it's also good because it eliminates the desperation a lot and you're also having sex with someone who's very good at and enjoys their job since they are professional. I think I read a statistic somewhere a while back saying that Germany has lower rates of rape because of the legal brothels but then there's a lot of talk recently about it going back up due to migrants, it could very well be BS though but I figure it's an interesting thought.

I'd probs do it myself if I was a male. Obvs it's different in every country and some countries it's not even legal but if I was that desperate to for example, lets say lose my virginity as a male then I figure it'd be worth the travel. I don't see the point in holding out for the "right one" and all that crap, it's just sentimental nonsense to me. That reminds me though, I think it was Jim Jefferies who basically just took his best mate to a hooker cause he had cerebral palsy and didn't wanna die without having sex so Jim sorted it out for him.

My opinions are a bit controversial and not gonna lie probably a bit grim but I think it's just a logical way to do things and not put yourself through unnecessary stress. I was talking to my friend about this just now as I was typing and he literally just said "I didn't have sex for two years once and thought I was going crazy so I went to a hooker when Wacken was on and it was amazing" lol! Learn something new every day.

Of course there is the argument of having sex with someone you love is supposed to be better but I think that's total bull from experience.

There are more important things in life than sex. Unfortunately the most important things in life cannot be obtained at a brothel.

No Lunella, I am sure sex with sex workers would always feel fake no matter how professional they claim to be - we know it's all act and not really attracted to us.

Guys who do it are so unhappy too.

I disagree, I've heard the complete opposite from so many who have actually done it. It depends on how good their act is too. I wouldn't go there sober either. Each to their own though obviously, you can't know if you're going to enjoy it until you've actually tried it anyway as everyone is different with what they like. Even then, the point is that you're doing it because you're desperate, as it is a last resort but at least that service is actually there if it is needed.

First resort is learning social skills and overall improving yourself to become desirable to the target kind of woman you want. Even then though I presume that there's an entire factor with being physically attractive or not but that can be fixed if desperate enough. I don't think anything is impossible, I think peoples morals/priorities get in the way of what they actually want. Like, turn your priorities down a bit if you want a relationship, most guys seem to go after really pretty high maintenance girls and it makes no sense with the millions of problems that come with it where you could go after someone not as attractive and probably better quality in everything else.

Prostitution might satisfy some people's animal desires, I think it should be legal and regulated as legislating against it simply creates a black market that further empowers the criminal victimizers. The human trafficking and sex slavery make up an unfathomable worldwide 'industry', it's not just prostitution but also pornography so much of which is produced outside the country in desperate lawless lands. It's something I've thought a lot about in recent months in light of some of the accusations made during the election, going down that rabbit hole is a truly disturbing experience and it changes how you view a lot of things in the culture.

In a vacuum, I don't think the simple exchange of money for sex is necessarily immoral but that ignores the reality of what the sex industry actually is. The richest most powerful people in the world run this industry, it's not the stereotyped of what people think pimps and Johns are. Slavery has never ended, not even close and it's something that goes almost totally unspoken. Look up the Arab Gulf royal families and what they do in their countries, it stuff you're taught that doesn't exist anymore.

They're.... lying to you; no man is gonna admit to a woman that he's feeling like a big loser after doing it.
Personally I know no man who is happy with the escort/hooker path - we have even seen some examples of those here on WP.

It's not about ethics or morals
or any of the sort - but there's a key paychological difference between the feeling from succeeding to attract women and make them agree joyfully to have sex with you on one hand; and to pay to an "escort/hooker" for sex in exchange on other hand.

No way in *hell* the two things feel the same for a sane man; unless he is totally delusional and really thinks those escorts really like him.
And any man claims otherwise is in big denial and will eventually break emotionally.

A single Playboy life of man who easily arouse women for mutual casual sex and fun --> Good for the self-esteem.

A single life of man whom his only way to make a woman agrees to sleep with him through paying? --> Falsely good at first then very, very bad for self-esteem.
The feeling of "being loser" at attracting womn won't go away with the second scenario.

^Also, the first scenario can end up totally horrible.

I tried it, mostly with Asian women - don't know why but these particular demographics find me very attractive; enoughly attractive even for something casual. If I message an Asian on some dating app, she *always* reply; not exaggerating.
I have even been replied even by those who appeared on the top popular list; it's crazy how it's different when I message caucasian women (whom most ignore me or block me from first Hi).

Anyway; even though it was mutually agreed to have casual thing from the beginning; it always ends up the woman falling in love with me - they think they know me enough.

Women like lunella are unicorns in life; most women are really long term oriented no matter what.

It's a headach especially with single moms because honestly I am really not willing to become a father figure suddenly in an overnight in 2-3 kids.

So now I am single, I see no potential of a long term any time soon, and too afraid to do any casual things anymore.

There's another form of unspoken slavery in the Middle East, even in the less conservative and non-wealthy countries such as Lebanon, it's called the Domestic workers industry.

I think I just have to lower my expectations. I should try to be happy with simple things like going for a walk or watching a TV show or drinking a cup of coffee.

Being single, lonely and virgin for whole life is not happy life, only if you wanted a relationship and sexual experience. It sucks being an aspie guy with hearing loss because I am missing out. I wish I am dead. f**k this society

I've seen news reports of that happening in the UK too.its illegal here, but it hasn't stopped some unscrupulous people taking advantage of migrants lack of understanding of UK law.

It's horrible.