The Most Common Way People Meet Their Partners

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Women tend to prefer the classes, and men tend to prefer the weight rooms here as well. I was a weight room person myself...I never did any classes, but no one has ever approached me at the gym except to ask if I was using a machine, or to work in.

Both sexes tend to wear headphones when doing cardio here, but not so much with weights. I think because with cardio it's easier when distracted, and weights require more concentration for proper form and count.

I've seen one gym approach, in the hallway, and it went well for both of them.

I was disappointed to read meeting ar church was in such a decline comparatively. For me, religion is a major part of my life, and my match absolutely MUST be in agreement with me on this.

Is it simply a decline in people involved in church activities? Or is it that religious people are averse to dating people they go to church with?

I still think that church is a great place to meet someone. First off, you know you have a common (religious) interest. There is often a range of social and community activity attached to churches.

What I find observing others at church is most everyone is paired up. Those who aren't tend to be widows or teenagers. The very few who are single aren't interested in YOU. You would think that finding a date at church would give you some advantage, but apparently people increasingly don't see it that way. Makes me sad.

Angelrho it seems to me that young single men are less interested in church than women. That's why I know a lot of single women. They're people I've met through church.

I've even moved around a lot. Been to different churches in new towns and it's the same everywhere I go.

There are definitely couples there who met through church, but none of the few single men are interested in me or my friends.

I'm in the UK though. So not sure if our culture is different. The UK is very secular and churchgoers are viewed as a bit weird here by the majority.

The_face_of_Boo I've Ben taking the term friend zone too literally I see.

Women are generally more religious. It's the same everywhere. That's why church is a good place for single men.

Before we got married I had to sent some time at my wife's church as it was necessary to get permission (as a non-religious person) for us to get married in the Catholic Church. There were so many single women there I could not believe my eyes. No wonder people suggested this route to me in the past! I've spent a fair bit of time around religious folks and they always seem like very genuine, caring people. Religion has not been an issue in any way in our lives.

I've never met a woman at a church or any other religious place.

Depends on the religion. I'm a Southern Baptist in a predominantly affluent congregation. There are several cliques and sub-cliques that run the gammut of snobbishness, but most of the people I associate with are super nice. I also work for the local Catholic church, and nearly every Catholic I've gotten to know are amazing people. I'm getting a lot of pressure to "move across the street" (literally) because, as they say, we embody Catholic values better than many Catholics.

The Baptist church I grew up in was awesome. We had our share drama, but I never felt this weird political pressure like I do where I am now. Most of the time we get along just fine with everyone, and they take good care of me and my family. What I wish I could see improved is how other parents raise their children. They are a heavily entitled bunch and I absolutely dread the possibility my kids would want to date any of them, much less hang out with them. My "home" church would likely be a better place to find a date! So would the Catholic church if I agreed with Catholicism. So it just depends on where you are and what the people are like.

Pentecostal girls, on the other hand... Now THAT is a crowd I'd really fit in with!

Particularly Christians: http://www.pewforum.org/interactives/re ... der-world/


But even among the Muslims, women are more likely to to affiliate with a religion:
http://www.pewforum.org/2016/03/22/wome ... -religion/


Most religions are so against them, exclude them from leadership positions - yet they are the ones more likely to be into religions!
And more likely into astrology too.

I met a person from the UK once who was very into Jesus and I did think it was strange.

Authentic Christian faith requires accepting we have no real control over our lives and we are in need of salvation and divine fulfillment. We have no real worth on our own, and thus our worth is bestowed on us through the grace of the One who created us.

Contrast that with a secular, self-deterministic world view that teaches us that everyone has his own worth independent of any other factor. Western society essentially conditions us to believe we all deserve a trophy just for breathing. A world-view that has human worthlessness in front of an all-powerful, completely holy God as its very foundation is understandably bizarre next to an acceptance and encouragement of entitlement.

Oh, and I'm only picking on one aspect of Western society as an example. That's not meant as a generalization of all of Western society as a whole. My point is Christian teachings are a stark counterpoint to much of current societal norms in many places.

Where I live, people who at least claim some belief in the divine are the norm, whereas atheists and humanists get the side-eye. The reality is that more Christians here pay lip service to faith because of childhood conditioning, social pressures/obligation, and the like, and possess very little authentic faith. Personally, I'm all in, and if that makes me weird, so be it, and WPers of all people ought to understand that position. With most nominal Christians, if a terrorist walked in, grabbed children, and demanded parents renounce their faith or the children lose their heads, I suspect you'd find there are a lot fewer Christians in the room than the regular crowds would have you believe.

My guess is that friends serve as a "psychopath filter." While blind dates are often bad, my guess is that you won't run into charming psychopaths via the recommendation of a friend.

I know quite a few octogenarians who met on blind dates. Which makes me wonder what was REALLY happening in the 40s and 50s!

I think you're onto something with the psychopath filter hypothesis. I think the more you get to know someone, the more likely you can sniff them out on your own. With friends, you have more history, but then he might behave differently IAR than he does around friends. I've gotten "filtered out" by disapproving friends for being the resident creep, and some of those girls ended up in miserable relationships anyway.

That's not quite what I meant. I don't mean that people who go to church are strange, I meant that it's something that few people do in Britain. Therefore people who do something non mainstream are not viewed as regular folks. Also, it not being the norm means it's not an easy place to find a partner.

We meant the same thing. I'm aware there are churches in the UK and that people attend them, but typically when I come across someone who is a "Jesus freak" they are from a region of the U.S. known as "the bible belt".

They meet when they are both responsible and mature enough.