I don't have the creep vibe.

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^ Things are totally different online.

We ultimately have zero control over how others react to us. You can be seen as super-charming by 90 people who like you, and 10 other people may think you're creepy for whatever reason. Projections and personal quirks are a big factor.

There are things you can do to improve your chances of appealing to others, but there will never be an iron-clad guarantee that no one will be creeped out by you.

So focus on the people who like you, and those who call you creep be damned.

What I hate about the "creep" concept: It means two things. It describes antisocial behaviour by borderline (or worse) psycopaths, groping, cat calling, etc. And it's also used to describe undesired but sincere romantic advances from undesirable men.

Since we use the same word for it, we conflate the two. An undesirable male like me is led to believe it's some kind of near crime to make an advance on woman. Or at least it's considered somewhat disgusting behavior. And without practice (and mistakes) we only fall behind other men who have been doing this all their lives, and f****d up _a lot_ in their youth, probably. So it's a vicious circle.

I appreciate the the compliment, but in person, I do tend to give a creep vibe, or at least I have in the past.

I'm not entirely sure why. I'm probably one of the more benign people in the world. On two occasions that I've overheard people comment that I'm strange, I had just been standing there minding my own business. People tend to lock their car doors when I walk by, I've made a number of men uneasy just because we happened to be walking the same direction and I was behind them (a number of feet, not even that close), and I was almost assaulted by a police officer once because I accidentally scared him.

That's so weird.

Are you big? And are you of a minority ethnicity?

I'd say I lost my creep vibe sometime in 2008. I knew because I noticed women acting more comfortable with me. Namely, acting more generous and/or more comfortable with physical affections, like hugging, dancing, holding hands, etc. Even when they were, without a doubt, not interested in me. Before then, women became clearly uneasy even I did something low-level, like touch them on the shoulder, although most let their guard down once they realized I wasn't as nasty as they originally thought. And earlier still, before I lost my virginity in 2005, I got all sorts of "complimentary" descriptors: "creepy", "gross", or even "his eyes! ugh!".

Year 2008 was a turning point, because in 2007, two major changes happened: (1) I moved out of my parents' home into my own apartment, and (2) I went on a year-long massive escort-sexing binge. I was seeing different escorts as frequently as twice a month: my age, older, younger (18+ only), my race, other races, etc. I think that made my confidence shoot through the roof, and it's still helping me to this day.

I'm small and I look white.

Are there certain mannerisms that you notice in people that can cause someone to give off a creep vibe?

Yes, I get this too. Sometimes if I happen to be walking behind someone they would look back at me and walk faster like they thought that I was following them or something.

I also sometimes have a habit of pulling and twisting my hair, but I try not to do it in public very much. A lot of guys seem to be uncomfortable when I start doing that like maybe they think I'm trying hard to flirt with them or something.

It also might be possible that those people are just jerks that want me to feel creepy.