What makes you attractive to others?

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hell if i know

but i've been told a lot that i'm ~mysterious~ lol

I wish I could get girls by being "mysterious" LOL

i'm sure you have more effective girl-getting qualities kraftie

I haven't the slightest idea. No one's ever told me.

Initially:

My guitar
My body

Once I get to know someone:

My silly sense of humour

i suppose the main thing may be that people can see i am in my own world, and that i am completely satisfied with it, and despite it, i can communicate effectively although i am never attached to what i say.

some people want to come to that world. it looks like the correct way to be to certain types.

i was watching a show last night called "travel guides" where participating families are required to experience various holidays. it is a good show in that it is not a travel agency ad (which most of them are).

anyway, there was a family sitting on top of a 12,000 mountain and there was no internet reception there and the kids (about 12 and 14) were insufferably bored.
they looked totally disenchanted with the experience.
the father said "wake up kids! take in the view!"
and they rolled their eyes (no doubt somewhat staged by the director).

but if i was the dad, i really think i could make them think, maybe i would ask them "do you know how heavy a bucket of dirt is?"
and then before they answer, but after they consider the question, i would say "look at that mountain. imagine how heavy it is. how many buckets full of stuff are in that mountain?"

then they may think "wow"

i just would include them in my own contemplation.
maybe they would be blind to it, and i would be impervious to their opinions of me.

even when looking at the ocean from a lookout over a beach, i may say "by george!! all that water must weigh an unimaginable amount. like it's about 25,000 feet deep in the abyssal plains. that is just beyond the imagination in conceiving heaviness".

some people think "wow! i never thought of it that way", but i just go home and am happy with my privacy.

I am 6'2 so I have super long legs that don't quit
I get compliments on my blonde hair and blue eyes quite frequently
I'm very nice and have a good sense of humor (though I have trouble understanding sarcasm a lot)
I am very accepting of others and open-minded
I am creative and artistic, and pretty intelligent

My wallet.

Good looks (up to about ten years ago)
Intelligence
Sense of humor

The good looks were always problematic. (I used to do a lot of modeling, in fact.) It attracted women and meant they often made the first move, which was important because I was so socially inept. But after a short time, say one week to two months, they would realize just how weird I was and end the relationship. So I had lots of brief flings, but I was still pretty lonely.

Fortunately, my social skills improved before my looks went to hell.

Hopefully...

-My intelligence, coupled with my creativity (intelligence by itself could just mean you know how to learn to do things that everyone else does--people tell me my ideas are so new they don't want to see them "die")
-My appreciation for the beauty of nature
-My ability to judge people for their originality, not their ability to fit in