Why did she say she was "too busy"?

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I really doubt you could call what he did "harassment", and I don't think that he looked like a fool.

It seems to work for NT guys all the time. Maybe a part of me was trying to imitate what NT guys do and see if it would work for me? I also honestly got more feedback from that girl than I ever did on online dating. Not saying only aspies use online dating but that is what I was told to try and it didn't work for me.

Yeah, and that's partly the point I've been trying to make. There's nothing really "wrong" with that any more than meeting girls any other way. It's just that you do have to keep in mind that friendly customer service goes with the territory and don't confuse that with interest in you.

Relationships take time. If you're a regular customer, like, every week, or you're always in browsing, then you're a familiar face rather than a threat or a creep. So asking little personal questions at checkout isn't such a big deal. "So what keeps you busy when you're not working?" eventually isn't such a terrible question to ask. But what you really want to know is when she does have free time and what she enjoys doing. So you plan around that.

Do yourself a favor though. When I say be open to picking up girls at their work, don't read that to mean you should make it a habit. Based on what I see from people on here, there's a lot of advice to NEVER try it based on the fact that she's there for work and not to be bothered by guys looking for a date. By the same token it's poor practice to use your job as a way to meet up with customers.

As an example: I knew a girl who once ended up getting drunk in a bar because she met up with a guy she liked in a hotel and things didn't quite go the way she wanted. So she was drunk, horny, and depressed. The bartender (true story) asked her if she wanted him to take her home. She did. He shuts the bar down. SHUTS THE BAR DOWN, kicks everyone out, locks up, takes her to her apartment and...well, you can figure out what happened next.

This isn't really the kind of thing most people can get away with much, and you certainly can't make a habit of it. Not picking up someone serving you, not a customer. My whole point is really simple: Never close yourself off to any possibility. Maybe it doesn't work out with the cashier. But what about the girl in line right behind you?

I don't know if she was or wasn't...last time I told someone I was too busy to do something with them, I was, but it sounds like you handled the situation very well.

It just wouldn't have changed anything to react angrily. I don't have the bad boy body or attitude to turn things in my favor.