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The_Face_of_Boo
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01 Apr 2017, 8:07 am

hurtloam wrote:
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go out for dinner one night this week' even though I said 'I won't be offended if the answer's no; just let me know either way'


I read an article once about that exact phrasing. Men don't understand it. They like direct communication. I can't find the article.

We know it means, "I want to see you, but I don't want to pressure you and push you away."

Men just see garbled mess: "She says she wants to go out, she's doesn't care if I say no, so that means she doesn't care at all, so what's the point. I'm not going to reply."

They say men aren't complicated :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

It amazes me that any men and women get together. We communicate so differently.


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03 Apr 2017, 8:11 am

Hi All,

Thanks for all your posts. An update; I pushed this guy on exactly what 'it' was that were had and he made it clear that it was just fun for him and basically he just wanted sex/ to keep it chilled.

Apparently he's slept with a lot of woman and it never goes any further than that. He's now blanking me which is awkward but at least I got to the bottom of it before getting attached or we'd had sex.

I did most of the chasing in this brief 'fling' and now with hindsight this just reinforces for me, that aspergers or not, if a guy is interested in you will do more of the chasing.

I've been in a relationship for the previous 15 years and am only just learning all of this stuff now at the age of 35... Christ, dating is a bit daunting when you're not just looking to shag around!

Thanks for all your thoughts on this.



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03 Apr 2017, 10:11 am

My condolences, but at least you got your answer. Just goes to show that aspies are individuals as well; his mode of operation is rather alien to me. Though, I suppose it's possible that he expects rejection and so avoids getting attached and aims to have fun while it lasts, so to speak...


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