biostructure wrote:
On the other hand, there are a decent number of aspies I have met whom I think could do well even settling down with another aspie. Those aspies are different from myself though--they tend to have more mainstream interests, more ability to bond with others, and less of what I think of as "aspie ego". That last term I coined to describe the kind of worldview that tends to originate from being precocious in certain areas as a child--effectively it's a need for others to be proud of one's unique talent, coupled with an insecurity about not having anything else to give the world. Two people who have this in different areas can be great friends, and great FIRST boy/girlfriends through bonding over a shared worldview, but can't fully ever satisfy each other's deepest needs (and if they have it in the SAME area, it just leads to tension--whether the people are the same or the opposite sex).
Why do you say it "just leads to tension" if two people are talented/precocious in the SAME area? My boyfriend and I (both on the autistic spectrum) are both programmers and we both have, from childhood, a talent for abstract math concepts. This and other common interests are a good part of what drew us together and keep us together.
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