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20 Apr 2017, 6:52 pm

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People often use art as a platform for getting to know someone...like they feel as though they can get to know more about you by learning what kind of music or art you're into. That's why guys (and girls) ask about music when trying to get to know someone. If you don't really like music, maybe change the subject and tell them what kind of movies, tv shows , or books you like. That way, it gives them the sort of window into your personality they were looking for, but it directs the conversation to something you're actually interested in.


but even books, movies or tv shows I also find boring to talk about and I don't think this define me and I don't know how to talk about this stuff, I think maybe I just don't like to meet people



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22 Apr 2017, 11:20 pm

I know how you feel.

I like all of those things, but it seems I like things that aren't mainstream, and don't follow the mainstream, so when I talk to most people about this stuff, it outs me.

I've almost never met anyone in my life who has even heard of the music I like, and the people who do know what it is always say it's not their type of music.

So I can't talk about music if I hate the majority of mainstream music.

I can't stand just how judgemental people are about things like what music you listen to, what tv shows or movies or video games you play.

They don't define me either.

I don't judge other people over these things.

I might hate a certain movie or video game or whatever, but if someone likes it I respect them and don't judge them for it, as long as they don't talk to it about me all the time or shove it down my face trying to get me to like it (which I've also noticed a lot of people do).

It seems if you don't listen to rap or rock or metal or pop then you're a weirdo and your taste is wrong/bad.

I dislike popular tv shows that everyone in my age group seem to love and so that's just another thing to drives people away from me because how could you want to be around someone who hates your favorite show and your friends favorite show?

I dislike most modern movies on a fundamental level. As in I dislike movies with lots of CGI (about 90% of movies nowadays), movies where the characters are very sarcastic and smarmy and mean spirited (90% of modern movies), movies that are so dark and drained of color, or they look too orange/teal (google what I mean) (90% of movies), modern movie trailers all look bad to me, too many bad remakes or bad sequels (fant4stic, star wars force awakens, kong skull island, tarzan, the new alien movie) etc.

Plenty of people like to watch movies or a tv show together with a group of their friends so I'd be left out of that kind of stuff.

I don't have any real advice, sorry.

Just that I know how you feel and it's something that's made it really hard for me to make friends and build connections with other people, how could you be friends with someone you share no interests with? Because that's been a big part of why I can't connect with others my age.