02 Jun 2007, 1:27 am
Sedaka
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02 Jun 2007, 5:11 pm
Sedaka
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02 Jun 2007, 5:17 pm
calandale wrote:
Miranda wrote:
It bothers me when I go to a party with a friend/partner and they walk off without me, expecting me to socialize on my own. They could at least introduce me to people first, to make it easier.
Yeah, though when my wife and I would go
together to things, we'd just end up sitting in
the corner, miserable together. The problem
is, either of us would have been fine sitting like
that alone - someone would eventually come
up, but with us together, it shut everyone out.
i would be happiest sitting there with my bf... shutting everyone out. lol
partying was a big thing i had issues with my last bf... he'd leave me at parties too and i HATED it. i wold even coach him before we go to the parties.... telling him to help direct convos to me... to give me a chance to talk (bfore i knew of AS too)! he'd forget to do this and either just keep talking with me standing right by him and i would just disappear... or just walk off like he forgot i was there lol
that or some other way would get me in the direction of just circling independent social clusters and listening in before figuring my window for "normal verbal injecture" was up and moving on to the next group to try again...
i just dont care for it anymore.... and further more... nightclubs are like this but i cant even hear to convos either
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02 Jun 2007, 5:22 pm
02 Jun 2007, 5:37 pm
Sedaka wrote:
i would be happiest sitting there with my bf... shutting everyone out. lol
partying was a big thing i had issues with my last bf... he'd leave me at parties too and i HATED it. i wold even coach him before we go to the parties.... telling him to help direct convos to me... to give me a chance to talk (bfore i knew of AS too)! he'd forget to do this and either just keep talking with me standing right by him and i would just disappear... or just walk off like he forgot i was there lol
It wasn't good. Made us both miserable. I'd actually rather enjoy
the situation you describe with your bf - I like having social people
around me, and if I have a smoke, I can just sort of watch them,
and make inappropriate comments now and then.
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i just dont care for it anymore.... and further more... nightclubs are like this but i cant even hear to convos either
They'd suck if I wanted to deal with people
in them.
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02 Jun 2007, 5:55 pm
