How to get rid of a crazy ex girlfriend.
14 May 2017, 12:25 am
AngelRho wrote:
I didn't mean to say DON'T do online dating, I just meant it's not something I personally would do. Some people do really well, and others not so much. It just comes down to a personal preference is all. But if it works for you, go for it.
She sounds nice. I think anything you can do to see someone else, even if it doesn't go beyond friends, will do you a lot of good.
Well, she also has an older sister who works in the same industry as me and who's also really nice. I think I'm going to place more importance on finding someone who I share something in common with. I don't think there's anything wrong with having different interests or anything, but it's probably good to find at least something in common. My ex approached me and I didn't have a gf at the time so I thought "why not?". Well, we all know how that relationship turned out.She sounds nice. I think anything you can do to see someone else, even if it doesn't go beyond friends, will do you a lot of good.
Sweetleaf wrote:
rdos wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
AngelRho wrote:
Dude, LISTEN TO ME!! ! Or read my posts, but whatever...DO WHAT I TELL YOU TO DO and DO NOT deviate from my advice!! ! !
Sorry for all the shouting, but am I getting through??? Cut off ALL contact with her, tell anyone who asks that you are NOT discussing her, and if it comes to this, inform her parents that you will report her to the police if she doesn't stop. Yes, you can have her arrested for what she's doing. Let's see how crazy lady stands up on a misdemeanour harassment charge. It shouldn't have to come to that. Enough is enough, man.
She's nuts. End of discussion. You don't want to hear her name ever again. Make that clear to your family/friends, and cut them off, too, if they keep this up. Hopefully you won't have to, but make it CLEAR that topic is strictly off-limits.
Sorry for all the shouting, but am I getting through??? Cut off ALL contact with her, tell anyone who asks that you are NOT discussing her, and if it comes to this, inform her parents that you will report her to the police if she doesn't stop. Yes, you can have her arrested for what she's doing. Let's see how crazy lady stands up on a misdemeanour harassment charge. It shouldn't have to come to that. Enough is enough, man.
She's nuts. End of discussion. You don't want to hear her name ever again. Make that clear to your family/friends, and cut them off, too, if they keep this up. Hopefully you won't have to, but make it CLEAR that topic is strictly off-limits.
She's a very sheltered girl who has lost her one and only relationship...I don't think she's like dangerous crazy.
Agreed. I think AngelRhos advice is massively overdoing it. One cannot equate an abusive relationship with a girl that is devasted by losing her only relationship. In fact, she is just acting like an ND girl that have trouble moving on. However, I do agree that she will only move on if he is completely out of her life, so if he is serious about the breakup, the "no contact" rule is essential.
Yeah that is the main thing, just not having contact...I mean it sucks for sure, but its the best option in situations like this. I mean sure if maintains no contact and then she starts trying to seek him out or come to his house uninvited or something then it may become nessisary to take legal action...but I think it is more if he has any contact with her she will cling to the idea she can get him back, I doubt she will make efforts to stalk him or anything if he just refuses all contact.
I mean I kinda feel sorry for her, it probably really sucks...but perhaps it will also motivate her to work on her own life and get more independent from her parents so future relationships could go better. And to clarify I don't think the O.P was mean to her or anything just I know she must be feeling really bad...I can kind of relate because I once had a break up with someone I really did want to be with but they had too much other stuff on their plate. Eventually I just had to deal with it....but yeah it was pretty upsetting at first and I tried to kind of cling onto the relationship he ended up leaving to california without even coming to make sure and tell me goodbye. I called him and that is when he officially ended it...I mean at least the O.P here made all efforts to break up in person and be clear it was over and didn't just up and leave. But either way the point is girls can move on from these things, it just takes time and no contact with the person to do so.
The problem is she isn't ready for that and shows no signs of being ready, but I do understand that I caused her pain and she has to adjust to a big change in her life. I had to adjust too, and it was hard, but it was necessary. So, even though I don't have it out for her, I don't feel maintaining frequent contact will help either of us move on. That's the long and short of it, and why I want to limit my contact with her.
