Aaron Rhodes wrote:
I'm getting tired of hearing people say that they want to be in a relationship simply to be in a relationship. It doesn't sound like there is much thought into what it actually means to be with someone. Instead of trying the same thing every time and complaining about your failure, change your perspective on the situation.
Oh I know what it means and I'm also tired of hearing this story. People, if you want to enhance your sex life, you need to get out there and live your personal life attributes to the full. Some people are prone to love hate pairings, and most need more than a gentle wake up call from someone who is daring and aims to push themselves our on a limb once in a while to prove their own self worth.
Settling down isn't a to-do list, its part of a gradual thing that separates itself from everything else. Aspie men struggle to get relationships as they need constant stimulation to manually engross themselves onto a topic away from routine tasks and unfamiliar sensory patterns. There is also no clear perspective to change as autistics and aspies can't change to suit the mainstream staus quo..unless they push themselves first.
Females are more on a level playing field, whereby some choose their words and actions carefully and don't get bogged down too much by the minor stuff, but then lose any clear sensory perception on the stats.. so some deem it pointless intrying to intercept it.
It's also a womans job to keep the man happy(supposedly), so i wonder who's most under stress from having delivered all out on their merit. Perhaps trying to tone down any literal meanings that often sound scary, will mostly just speed up the introduction..the friendship perspective is often much tougher to contend with. Womens random choices are often their split decisions ruled by unenthusiastic, uncharacteristic stubborn men,who need to burn off the exrta calories and shake up their male persona a bit, before wasting their lives on a downslide.