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25 Oct 2017, 1:05 pm

Thank you, everyone, for suggestions and just support in general. I've not been replying to my friend for about 24 hours and I haven't heard anything, which right now I'm taking to be a good sign.



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26 Oct 2017, 9:13 am

MarissaKay wrote:
Thank you, everyone, for suggestions and just support in general. I've not been replying to my friend for about 24 hours and I haven't heard anything, which right now I'm taking to be a good sign.


Glad that your friend finally understands the situation :D



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26 Oct 2017, 10:08 am

Why are you still calling him friend if you don't want to even acknowledge his existence?



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26 Oct 2017, 1:19 pm

Makes sense he doesn’t realize how he’s not good enough. Always been bit jealous of low functioning autistics for that. Sucks being high functioning. You know your defective and not good enough for women but hi still desire love and companionship. Depressing. But low functioning might not realize they aren’t good enough.

I’d much rather be super high functioning like some of the successful aspies here or be normal. Normal would be great.



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26 Oct 2017, 4:37 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Why are you still calling him friend if you don't want to even acknowledge his existence?


It's not that I don't want to acknowledge his existence- it's that I want him to stop crushing on me. When he gets to the point where he sees me platonically again, I'll feel comfortable conversing with him again.



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26 Oct 2017, 5:14 pm

MarissaKay wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Why are you still calling him friend if you don't want to even acknowledge his existence?


It's not that I don't want to acknowledge his existence- it's that I want him to stop crushing on me. When he gets to the point where he sees me platonically again, I'll feel comfortable conversing with him again.

Aspie guy here. That likely won’t ever happen unless you become ugly or change your personality. For me once I crush and like someone romantically it never goes away. There’s a giant brick wall in my mind between friend And romantic interests and it goes from floor to ceiling with no way through. Similar I don’t ever see female I only see as friends ever as romantic interests. Not that I have many who’d fall in that category. Only those I met while they were in a relationship therefore not able to be a romantic interest.

Do women really see a man romantically then eventually stop and only see him as a platonic?



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26 Oct 2017, 5:21 pm

sly279 wrote:
MarissaKay wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Why are you still calling him friend if you don't want to even acknowledge his existence?


It's not that I don't want to acknowledge his existence- it's that I want him to stop crushing on me. When he gets to the point where he sees me platonically again, I'll feel comfortable conversing with him again.

Aspie guy here. That likely won’t ever happen unless you become ugly or change your personality. For me once I crush and like someone romantically it never goes away. There’s a giant brick wall in my mind between friend And romantic interests and it goes from floor to ceiling with no way through. Similar I don’t ever see female I only see as friends ever as romantic interests. Not that I have many who’d fall in that category. Only those I met while they were in a relationship therefore not able to be a romantic interest.

Do women really see a man romantically then eventually stop and only see him as a platonic?


Absolutely. In regards to your comment about functioning, you are correct. People with low IQ don’t understand that people will say no or why. They’d ask out Megan fox and think they’d have a chance. I don’t know why you’re jealous, wouldn’t you rather be able to do more things?



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26 Oct 2017, 5:40 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
sly279 wrote:
MarissaKay wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Why are you still calling him friend if you don't want to even acknowledge his existence?


It's not that I don't want to acknowledge his existence- it's that I want him to stop crushing on me. When he gets to the point where he sees me platonically again, I'll feel comfortable conversing with him again.

Aspie guy here. That likely won’t ever happen unless you become ugly or change your personality. For me once I crush and like someone romantically it never goes away. There’s a giant brick wall in my mind between friend And romantic interests and it goes from floor to ceiling with no way through. Similar I don’t ever see female I only see as friends ever as romantic interests. Not that I have many who’d fall in that category. Only those I met while they were in a relationship therefore not able to be a romantic interest.

Do women really see a man romantically then eventually stop and only see him as a platonic?


Absolutely. In regards to your comment about functioning, you are correct. People with low IQ don’t understand that people will say no or why. They’d ask out Megan fox and think they’d have a chance. I don’t know why you’re jealous, wouldn’t you rather be able to do more things?


It’s the obliviousness I am jealous of. They don’t realize they are defective and women won’t like them. They think they are and so they ask women out. Some of them get lucky I’ve heard and find s gf.

I on the other hand an well aware I’m defective and not good enough to ask women out so I don’t.