Trying to accept my singlehood

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I remember being told "I don't need a girlfriend," too, in my desperate years. I didn't like it either.

I never said that "you don't need a girlfriend." All I said----was to not make it an impending priority. I know for a fact that girls can sense desperation. They really don't like desperate men; they fear them. They also fear that a desperate man won't be solid enough, that they are too "unstable."

Instead of using your environment as an (invalid) excuse for how you should live your life, why not leave the toxic environment you're in? There's a point where you have to stop making excuses for the situation you're in and take action. Why do the opinions and beliefs of the people around you have so much influence on your own values? Throw away the ideals that were forced onto you and find your own path in life. If you choose to continue to be weak you will most certainly perish. That fact alone is all you need to find the strength to get through life. I know I may be harsh most of the time, but it's the only thing that has worked for my own life. I want people to harshly criticize me, because otherwise I may not know that there is anything wrong with what I'm doing. Being harsh is a way of keeping people on the right path, but it is often misunderstood as being cruel or insensitive. I also apologize for any time that I lose my cool and resort to insults. I have a bad habit of giving advice in a way that it will be rejected. It's my way of testing people. If they fail to see past the harsh exterior of my words, then I know that I won't be able to reason with them. So, you can take what I've said any way you want, and your response will tell me exactly what kind of person you are.

Come on, Marknis. It's not cool for somebody to tell somebody to "get lost" from a Site where people are constantly told to "get lost" in real life.

I don't agree with his religious viewpoints---but I don't believe he is one who epitomizes the idiots in the Bible Belt whom you encounter. He just happens to believe in God (which I don't); it doesn't make him a bad guy.

I understand your discontent. But being so angry will not help you in the long run.

Just say "good riddance" to the Bible-Belters....and pursue your own path.

I know this is easier said than done but is it possible for you to not compare yourself with people in a relationship.


I think a lot of the feeling of inadequacy result from of guys with girlfriends.

I'm not saying you should fake contentment or pretend you don't feel envy, that wouldn't make you happier, I'm saying you should attempt to genuinely not compare yourself with other people.

I know this is very difficult to achieve because I'm trying to achieve this goal myself and it takes a lot of effort but I think the benefits may be worth it.

Just remember that when other guys have girlfriends or are more successful in other ways, there is always an element of chance involved.

I've come to accept the belief that I'm where I'm supposed to be and doing what I'm supposed to be doing. If that means being single, so be it. I realized I was more concerned with how others might view me than I was how I viewed myself.