Girls—do you care about height?

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The height that's most attractive to me is taller than me but not extremely tall. I guess it's roughly between 5'9 and 6'2. I'm 5'7.
That to me the most attractive height is between 5'9 and 6'2 does not mean I wouldn't date anyone shorter or taller than that though.

About the same height always, thats easy because most men are.
With most women shorter, sometimes very much (but they're always above you in their head), that makes relating with them difficult.

Women who care about a man's height are shallow and should be left alone if you ask me.

What happened to dating someone because of their personality and ambitions?

Whenever I saw a "must be 5'10" " or similar qualifier I always closed the match instantly. Obviously I more than "qualify" but as a tall person, I H-A-T-E being judged as a tall person and seen as my identifying characteristic. I am a man who happens to be tall not a tall human who happens to be male.

I actually felt that I was turned away because of my height far more than I was turned to. In my unscientific look at couples, I have found that the majority are within 1-2" of each other, often times with the male being on the short end of that equation.

All studies i have seen show that in almodt every relationship the male is taller

Of course they are. The average height for a man is 5 inches taller than the average height for a woman. It wouldn't make sense, otherwise.

However, I am the average height of a woman---and I do okay with them.

Personally, I'm 172,5 cm and I would prefer it if the guy was somewhere between 172,5 and 180, but I wouldn't turn anyone down just because they're shorter than me (or over 180.) It's a preference the same way some people like blue eyes or black hair or big chest... or like how some don't find tattoos, piercings, scars or whatever attractive. Finding someone less attractive for reasons like these doesn't make a person shallow, but turning someone down just because of things like these does. At least, that is what I think.

I am 164.5 centimeters.

The difference is that tattoos, piercings, etc are a choice. I had zero choice in my height or my acne, for example. Yes, I turned down a woman solely because of an giant eyebrow ring because it looked absolutely hideous. If that made me shallow so be it.

Yes, they are choices, but the point was that they are about appearance... but well, if those aren't comparable with height then at least eye color and hair color are... I mean people can wear lenses or dye their hair to change it, but height can be changed by wearing heels, too, so they are comparable.

I'm 5'8" and my ex( ) wife is 6'

I think she assumed it would bother me, but it never did.

Being shorter made me feel more cared for and nurtured maybe. I don't know.

But it didn't really feel like something that should be an issue either way.

Like someone said above, we are all the same height lying down, and also I'd rather been on an intellectual level with someone rather than a physical feet and inches above the ground level.

Not exactly a girl but I'm 5'4", two of my boyfriends have been 5'5" and the other two have been 6'4". My ideal height for a partner tends to be however tall the person I'm currently attracted to is so I guess I don't care

Well women are wrong if they think height and strength are the same thing. I mean I have seen plenty of tall 6 foot or taller guys who are as skinny as a toothpick...I doubt they are that 'strong' compared to say a shorter guy maybe 5' 5" or shorter who has actually built some muscle. Maybe some women just love having to crank their neck all the way back to kiss their S.O and it has nothing to do with confusing height with strength.

Either way I get having a preference, however I think it would be shallow to turn someone down solely based on their height or any other feature like that. I for instance find long hair on guys to be really attractive, but my boyfriend can't grow his hair out due to genetics of receding hair....so i think it would have been shallow if I broke it off over him not having long hair.

I think its possible for there to be some form of multi-verse, but I don't think the other dimensions would include a sonic the hedgehog dimension. I mean you're basically saying you're going to marry a cartoon hedgehog when you die....I mean I can't tell you what to believe but, wouldn't this sort of get in the way of having a relationship while you are here. I mean maybe that doesn't matter to you but I can't imagine any guys would be very comfortable in a relationship with someone who already has a fiance that's a hedgehog. Also though kind of sounds like you're just waiting on death rather than really living this life at all...which I guess in some ways it may be healthy not to dread death but I don't know just waiting on it so you can marry what sounds like an imaginary friend does seem maybe a little unhealthy.

Not trying to be rude or anything, but I mean do you 100% believe all this....or is this more of a fantasy you get lost in for coping with difficulties?

…I really don’t feel like going through a whole series of explanations again trying to justify my alternative lifestyle to others. All I just ask is for respect and to understand that some people are content and not assume that living and thinking a different way than others = unhealthy.

Last edited by MariaTheFictionkin on 08 Dec 2017, 4:05 pm, edited 1 time in total.

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