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27 Dec 2017, 9:06 am

^ Be horny.



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27 Dec 2017, 10:05 am

Do you have affectionate feelings for this person?



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27 Dec 2017, 1:27 pm

I'm not sure which bits of advice are for me and which for the OP. One friend was female and the other gay so no.

I will make note of the advice for future, err, appropriate situations however. :D


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27 Dec 2017, 6:13 pm

fluffysaurus wrote:
I'm not sure which bits of advice are for me and which for the OP. One friend was female and the other gay so no.

I will make note of the advice for future, err, appropriate situations however. :D


Close your eyes....



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29 Dec 2017, 10:06 am

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I get bullied and ostracized a lot and it seems like a lot of the people who bully me are likeable and know how to manipulate people. Even though my bullies and former bullies don't even know I'm in a relationship I keep having thoughts of them flirting with or coming on to my boyfriend. I think I have these thoughts to try to prepare myself in case it did happen, but I feel like I think about it more than I should.
How likely is it that these girls would actually meet your boyfriend and come on to him? What do you realistically think might be the outcome if it happened?

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We usually see each other every other day. Both of us initiate in conversation. He's usually the one who initiates with meeting up though.
I am in no position to know for certain, but I think you're safe in assuming that the reason he is the one who initiates a meetup is because he's horny. You should try to occasionally be the horny one, even if it's a bit of an act.


I don't think it's very likely that they would meet him. If they did though, and they knew we were together I think they might or try to find another way to break us up because they do try to isolate me from other people. There have also been times we here if someone knew if something made me happy they would seem to try to take away whatever it was. I think if they did try to break us up in some way they probably would because a lot of them are very persuasive and know how to manipulate.

I occasionally ask him and when he does ask me I usually ask him questions about the meet up. When I text I can also sometimes be clingy. When we meet up though we do other things too.



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29 Dec 2017, 12:14 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
It’s so odd that you’re still being bullied at age 27 honestly. How old are your bullies?


I got bullied in the military.


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29 Dec 2017, 12:19 pm

mee too. :|



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29 Dec 2017, 6:21 pm

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mee too. :|


*fistbump*


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29 Dec 2017, 6:25 pm

at least we can take some comfort from those days being behind us now. no more bullying brassholes of that kind, at least.



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29 Dec 2017, 8:40 pm

auntblabby wrote:
at least we can take some comfort from those days being behind us now. no more bullying brassholes of that kind, at least.


^ Exactly.


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31 Dec 2017, 12:33 am

I sometimes wish there was a way to keep these type of people from isolating me from people who are closer to me.



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31 Dec 2017, 12:39 am

yes, in fact, bullies do too often seem to get in the way of us relating better to some other people.



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31 Dec 2017, 12:45 am

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yes, in fact, bullies do too often seem to get in the way of us relating better to some other people.


Yes and it's happened to me several times before. That's probavly ehy i think about it.They try to do anything they can to try to make you miserable and alone.



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31 Dec 2017, 12:50 am

slw1990 wrote:
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yes, in fact, bullies do too often seem to get in the way of us relating better to some other people.


Yes and it's happened to me several times before. That's probavly ehy i think about it.They try to do anything they can to try to make you miserable and alone.

yes, that is the MO of the abuser. they think they own you.



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31 Dec 2017, 8:10 am

Should I talk about it more with him? The last time I did he told me not to think about it.



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31 Dec 2017, 2:28 pm

That’s good advice from him.

He wants you to “be yourself,” rather than force things.