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28 Jan 2018, 3:12 pm

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Well, it's definitely easier to get a girlfriend if one learns that game, but I think most can agree on that game being mostly BS. It's why so many relationships fail, because people put up a show in order to impress each other, and then they get disappointed as soon as the masks fall off.
If you were to get a girlfriend by pretending you're someone you're not, you would both get disappointed, because you can't keep that game up forever.
It's of course harder for the weird introverted outsiders to find someone we're compatible with. Maybe because there's fewer of us around, and maybe because we just don't approach each other (that's why my friends are all really extroverted, because I don't make friends - other people make friends with me) but there are certainly other people out there who prefers interesting conversations about anime over partying in a club. They're just way harder to find - because they're at home watching anime.

That's so true, if there is a guy out there for whom an antisocial biblemaniac with an obsessive personality is the perfect mate how am I going to bump into him when I barely leave the house.


Unfortunately, a lot of women in my area only want to date men who identify as Christian, even if they are open to pre-marital sex. They think if you aren't a Christian, you are a bad person.

In that case a woman who doesn't identify primarily with being a Christian (in the context of your area) would probably either keep a low profile or not be very open about her views. That doesn't help you find them, does it.


No, it does not.

If they were open minded and didn't base my worth of being religious, I wouldn't turn a Christian girl down and maybe I would even consider going to their place of worship but so many of them think you aren't moral or you are a serial killer in waiting if you aren't religious.



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28 Jan 2018, 11:08 pm

It feels like a punch in the face when someone tells me they are engaged or just got married. It makes me feel unlovable. :(



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29 Jan 2018, 6:01 am

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It feels like a punch in the face when someone tells me they are engaged or just got married. It makes me feel unlovable. :(

And people can be really f*****g tactless :evil:


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29 Jan 2018, 6:11 am

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Where did your thread about being a good love partner go?


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29 Jan 2018, 10:09 am

Isn't it better that the women tell you the truth, rather than lie?

I know how you feel though...I felt like I've been punched a few times myself.

But the fact is: they ARE married and engaged. Nothing you can do about that.



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29 Jan 2018, 10:47 am

fluffysaurus wrote:
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It feels like a punch in the face when someone tells me they are engaged or just got married. It makes me feel unlovable. :(

And people can be really f*****g tactless :evil:

I thought you meant friends and family tell you they're getting married, which I find they can be really tactless about.
But if you meant the girls you are interested in then Kraftiekortie's right it's best that they are honest and their saying no is not a rejection of you if they have a husband/boyfriend already. People in your area seem to settle down early.


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29 Jan 2018, 10:52 am

Them being married and engaged has nothing to do with the "loveability," or the "nonloveability" of you.

Think about it: how does their marital status make you unloveable?



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29 Jan 2018, 12:15 pm

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Where did your thread about being a good love partner go?


It's still here. It just got pushed down because someone trolled it by calling me Elliot Rodger and the post got deleted.



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29 Jan 2018, 12:51 pm

I believe perspective is a good thing.

But, Elliott Rodger.....you are not. Whoever conceived the comparison is beyond nuts---best avoided.



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29 Jan 2018, 1:17 pm

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I believe perspective is a good thing.

But, Elliott Rodger.....you are not. Whoever conceived the comparison is beyond nuts---best avoided.


Eliott Rodger was a narcissist but at the same time hated the fact he was bi-racial. He was also a spoiled brat. His issues were different than mine.



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29 Jan 2018, 1:27 pm

Way different. He killed somebody.

I have "issues," too. Many people have "issues."

Only a very few would consider killing someone.



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29 Jan 2018, 1:32 pm

Marknis wrote:
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I believe perspective is a good thing.

But, Elliott Rodger.....you are not. Whoever conceived the comparison is beyond nuts---best avoided.


Eliott Rodger was a narcissist but at the same time hated the fact he was bi-racial. He was also a spoiled brat. His issues were different than mine.

They compared you to a narcissist :o

I only know who the Elliot guy is because I looked it up when Sly said someone called him it.

This is particularly off when you remember what we were talking about.


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29 Jan 2018, 1:33 pm

There are many narcissists, but very few murderers.

I wish people would stop with the Elliot Rodger comparisons already. The guy was a murderer, pure and simple.



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29 Jan 2018, 2:44 pm

This may sound old hat but...
Each person is there own individual. Each take there own path, each lives there own life. Its up to you to get out there and get your life on the roll


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29 Jan 2018, 5:11 pm

fluffysaurus wrote:
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It feels like a punch in the face when someone tells me they are engaged or just got married. It makes me feel unlovable. :(

And people can be really f*****g tactless :evil:

I thought you meant friends and family tell you they're getting married, which I find they can be really tactless about.
But if you meant the girls you are interested in then Kraftiekortie's right it's best that they are honest and their saying no is not a rejection of you if they have a husband/boyfriend already. People in your area seem to settle down early.


Not just friends and family tell me they are getting married but strangers as well.

They do settle early partly because of the reverse psychology brought on by "Save sex for marriage!" and the teen pregnancies that result from it.

kraftiekortie wrote:
Them being married and engaged has nothing to do with the "loveability," or the "nonloveability" of you.

Think about it: how does their marital status make you unloveable?


It's more that I wonder why they are so far ahead of me while I can't even get a date.