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08 Feb 2018, 3:36 pm

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She probably wouldn’t date a guy from Oregon, since she lives in Vermont.

Well I didn’t mean personally her but even if I did live near her she wouldn’t date me based on the type of men she said in past she wouldn’t date.
A lot of aspie women don’t like aspie type men.


I live in New Hampshire.

Sly279, I have dated aspie men. I don't mind them as long as he can hold down intelligent conversation with me about video games, anime and music.


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08 Feb 2018, 4:46 pm

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Has she actually told you her requirements?

She’s made threads and posts clearifyin who she wouldn’t date. Doesn’t have to me told to me directly



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08 Feb 2018, 4:49 pm

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A lot of aspie women don’t like aspie type men.

Why so? There's a tread in WD that says they do.


What’s WD?
For the same reason many NT women don’t want to date aspies.
A lot of aspie men aren’t providers or successful men. Then there’s our social issues.



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08 Feb 2018, 5:19 pm

sly279 wrote:
smudgedhorizon wrote:
sly279 wrote:
A lot of aspie women don’t like aspie type men.

Why so? There's a tread in WD that says they do.


What’s WD?
For the same reason many NT women don’t want to date aspies.
A lot of aspie men aren’t providers or successful men. Then there’s our social issues.

There is a section on WP called Women's Discussion, occasionally we even discus Aspie men.


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08 Feb 2018, 5:26 pm

Do you have a lot of weight to loose, if so, the slower the weight comes off the less extra skin. I don't find scars on people unattractive, comparative to other things. Some men might be put off by them, but I think they would be in the minority.


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08 Feb 2018, 5:46 pm

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Do you have a lot of weight to loose, if so, the slower the weight comes off the less extra skin. I don't find scars on people unattractive, comparative to other things. Some men might be put off by them, but I think they would be in the minority.


Cutting scars make me feel sad for women who have them. I wish I could hugs them



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08 Feb 2018, 6:40 pm

fluffysaurus wrote:
Do you have a lot of weight to loose, if so, the slower the weight comes off the less extra skin. I don't find scars on people unattractive, comparative to other things. Some men might be put off by them, but I think they would be in the minority.


I have to lose 60 pounds or more.


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08 Feb 2018, 6:53 pm

I don't believe many doctors would do bypasses on people who weigh less than 300 lbs. Maybe that's changed, though.



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08 Feb 2018, 8:39 pm

fluffysaurus wrote:
sly279 wrote:
smudgedhorizon wrote:
sly279 wrote:
A lot of aspie women don’t like aspie type men.

Why so? There's a tread in WD that says they do.


What’s WD?
For the same reason many NT women don’t want to date aspies.
A lot of aspie men aren’t providers or successful men. Then there’s our social issues.

There is a section on WP called Women's Discussion, occasionally we even discus Aspie men.


Unless it’s changed my understanding is that’s for women only and they don’t want men butting in there, so I don’t read it.



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08 Feb 2018, 10:32 pm

Scars? Doesn’t bother me. I’m with someone with a C-section scar. Done the old school long way, not the cute smiley face scar you hide under pubic hair, but the kind that looks like a zipper up to your belly button. As in the emergency section type, like the doc was drunk off gin and cut her open with a rusty hatchet, sewed it up with hay-bailing twine and stuck duck tape on top.

Truth is it was placenta previa. She and the baby almost died. They are both very much alive and strong. I tell her she should wear that ugly scar with pride. Which makes it not really so ugly, right?

Scars are strength, and I don’t care if you had a baby ripped out of you or if you lost weight. While not the same, losing weight takes courage and strength, too. Be proud of your scars.



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09 Feb 2018, 2:29 am

sly279 wrote:
fluffysaurus wrote:
sly279 wrote:

What’s WD?
For the same reason many NT women don’t want to date aspies.
A lot of aspie men aren’t providers or successful men. Then there’s our social issues.

There is a section on WP called Women's Discussion, occasionally we even discus Aspie men.


Unless it’s changed my understanding is that’s for women only and they don’t want men butting in there, so I don’t read it.
No, you are allowed on, it just has a different vibe to L&D and most posters are women, but not all.


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09 Feb 2018, 2:44 am

xxZeromancerlovexx wrote:
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Do you have a lot of weight to loose, if so, the slower the weight comes off the less extra skin. I don't find scars on people unattractive, comparative to other things. Some men might be put off by them, but I think they would be in the minority.


I have to lose 60 pounds or more.

Unless you have other issues to take into account then I don't think a gastric bypass would be a good way to go. The best way to loose 60lb would be to do it in two years. This is very doable for most people by having a healthier lifestyle, particularly when as young as you are.

I think you are being very sensible thinking about the saggy skin and the scares before the weight lose. Most people rush in and are hugely disappointed after they've lost all the weight to have to deal with the skin. I lost 49lb in nine months at age 27 and didn't end up with loose skin so you might get away with 60lb if you take slow and include exercise.


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09 Feb 2018, 2:46 am

Yes of course I would. I would date her as what is on the outside of her is not what is on the inside of her.



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09 Feb 2018, 2:49 am

fluffysaurus wrote:
sly279 wrote:
smudgedhorizon wrote:
sly279 wrote:
A lot of aspie women don’t like aspie type men.

Why so? There's a tread in WD that says they do.


What’s WD?
For the same reason many NT women don’t want to date aspies.
A lot of aspie men aren’t providers or successful men. Then there’s our social issues.

There is a section on WP called Women's Discussion, occasionally we even discus Aspie men.



You mean the mistandrist den?



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09 Feb 2018, 2:57 am

xxZeromancerlovexx wrote:
sly279 wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
She probably wouldn’t date a guy from Oregon, since she lives in Vermont.

Well I didn’t mean personally her but even if I did live near her she wouldn’t date me based on the type of men she said in past she wouldn’t date.
A lot of aspie women don’t like aspie type men.


I live in New Hampshire.

Sly279, I have dated aspie men. I don't mind them as long as he can hold down intelligent conversation with me about video games, anime and music.

I’m fat though. You’ve stated in the past you wont date fat men.

I like video games and anime. I’m rewatching gundam wing. And finished gate few weeks ago. I got Hulu for the anime



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09 Feb 2018, 2:58 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
fluffysaurus wrote:
sly279 wrote:
smudgedhorizon wrote:
sly279 wrote:
A lot of aspie women don’t like aspie type men.

Why so? There's a tread in WD that says they do.


What’s WD?
For the same reason many NT women don’t want to date aspies.
A lot of aspie men aren’t providers or successful men. Then there’s our social issues.

There is a section on WP called Women's Discussion, occasionally we even discus Aspie men.



You mean the mistandrist den?

Did you mean misandrist? I prefer lair anyway.


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