do guys disliked girls who are sexual?

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i don't know if i'm sexual generally, but i was very sexual with my ex-boyfriend and i was a virgin when we met and i hadn't much interest in sex before, it also meant i didn't knew some things weren't considered good for a girl to do. so i didn't mind about anything, but when i got more interest on it, and went to read about sex, i found some things i did wasn't nice, and i worry if he looked me badly because of it. i still love him and i worry if it had some influence.

A guy with mojo las deja mojadas. Makes sense.

@ltcvnzl is Brazilian, you shouldn't talk to her in Spanish.

I think the reason some guys don't see a girl who has sex on the first date as 'girlfriend material' is because there's a tacit expectation that women don't 'give it up' so easily and early (barring casual sex of course), so when a woman wants to have sex on the first date, they assume she either 'gives it up' easily and perhaps for a lot of people, potentially alluding to the fact that she's more likely to be tempted by another guy and less likely to remain faithful, or they question her standards or self-esteem, wondering if there are extenuating circumstances behind why she 'gave it up' so freely.

Sorry, I was under the impression that she knew both languages pretty well.

i wouldn't say pretty well, but i know both.
i guess it was a joke who wouldn't work in portuguese.

Definitely not, with that pesky -lh- instead of -j-

I'm not a very judgmental person, but it would be a case by case basis. I would much rather understand why people do the things they do rather than criticize them for what they do.

I have an extremely high sex drive, so I need someone similar in that way.

How to convey the need, without sounding like a creep, in one of the most conservative states in the U.S. is another story.

My experience and the women around me that guys love sexual girls.
No effort, easy sex.
But they don't want them as girlfriend.
I questioned one guy who said he had relationship after first night sex and at the end he admitted it was because she was available, not because he was so in love.

Also everyone appreciate more what they have to work for. Freebies are discarded easily.

One doesn't fall in love from a one night, it is foolish to think otherwise.

Not necessarily. I meant to have a ONS once just to let off steam and have a good time, but we got along so well that we accidentally got into a relationship

And I for one don't tend to appreciate what I have to work for. I appreciate people doing what they wanna do, being honest and upfront, and not doing things just cos they think they should (e.g. withholding sex for x number of days).

Boo sorry I wasn't clear. He went out with her for 5 months because she was available not because he was in love. He didn't fall in love for 5 months.

Yellow tamarin I'm glad you can accidentally end up in a relationship after a one night stand. It never happened to me or any women I know. The most they got a two night stand.

i guess this is what happened with me and my ex-boyfriend. he stayed with me for a long period and somewhat accepted the term but i'm unsure if he ever got emotionally invested on it, actually one day he mentioned i "dragged" him into it, it sounded pretty unfair but ok. i don't know how much of it related for the fact that we had sex on our first date [ok that we had kept online contact for over a month before it but still] but i always hated the fact that i was just someone available than someone he really longed to. but at least i enjoyed the sex too.

I imagine it doesn't happen very often (and it certainly was unexpected), that's why it's an amusing story. I was just introducing a different perspective. Pretty much all I ever seem to do in this forum, haha.

Women who are super-sexual outside of relationships aren't really my cup of tea. I feel like it makes things less special, and raises the chances of cheating much higher.