What aspie traits are considered sexy?

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I have an alternative writing style?

I don't have enough dating experience to say for sure, but I think girls like my gentleness. My voice is quieter, I don't talk too fast, and I try to be as pleasant as possible during conversation. I guess it offers them a bit of respite from guys with more masculine behavior. But I also worry that it causes them to only see me as a friend, and not someone they might want to date.

As for traits that I find attractive, I like girls who smile and laugh a lot; I don't understand the appeal of goths. I would also like to date someone who prefers to express their affection via physical contact rather than words, since I'm the same way.

You do not have an “alternative” writing style. You write pretty “normal” and well. I was just using that as an example, plus the Finnish polka thing.

I guess the same traits that I find attractive in non-aspie types.

I was mainly asking which aspie traits are seen as sexy. I already know all too well which aspie traits are unsexy.

what I was saying is that I find no divergence between the attractive traits of AS versus NT folk. attractive is attractive no matter what. where there IS divergence, is unattractive traits.

I guess that’s been consistent with my life in general. I have my strengths and weaknesses like everyone else. All my weakness are connected to Asperger’s, but none of my strengths are.

I suspect that you, similarly to me, DO have strengths but they are not necessarily WORLDLY strengths. they are strengths that tend to be unappreciated by most people. but [it took me decades to learn this] most people are not really all they're made out to be.

I am artsy and stuff, which is appreciated by people. It’s just not related to aspergers.

Some artistic tendencies are related to Aspergers, I believe.

It creates an altered state of interpretation of words and images, vis a vis NTs.

Not everything related to Asperger's is pathological.

everyone who has been attracted to me says the same thing:

that they like my talent for drawings and music, and my intelligence

In response to your post, shyness or aloofness will sometimes trigger interest in some girls, as they will want to "crack" the mystery. That's rare though.

I agree that artistic tendencies are a turn on to some girls, but I'm not sure whether it had such a big impact on my past relationships, def not the first one. I mean not to sound cocky, I'm pretty darn good at music, but it wasn't a deal breaker to them either way, I even made a song dedicated to my ex lol with full production and all. It's just an individual thing I guess.

Streamlined body, powerful flukes, prominent dorsal fin.

being super organised. I love organised men... its like "you had me at 'Schedule'!" hehe
You've written out an itinerary for our date? "oh you sexy man! marry me and be the father of my future children!"

Not me. I don't like "itineraries" for dates.

I like to "go with the flow."

Sometimes, the "flow" leads to great things.