Not just rejected but blocked

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This is typically something that many women do when they know the man is trying to approach them but they don't find him attractive.

It's very common.

My advice is when you see her in the group next time, pretend that she doesn't exist, no smile, no glimpses, nothing - don't even say hi to her even if she passes by you as if she's a ghost - that would annoy her the most.

*takes notes*

I would act like that with her out of fear & embarrassment. I think she overreacted but this may be better than getting rejected by her in person face to face.

Her action was rude, but don't let it put you off going to the youth group. It would be best not to attempt to approach her in any way though. Her odd behavour may well be due to her social anxiety, best just leave her alone.

^ That. Do not spend energy on people who are not interested in you, it just drains you and make you miserable.

It does sound like a very confusing situation you poor thing *hug*. It seems to me that the problem did not rest with you, but with her. Had it occurred to you that she may be scared of men in general? My advice would be NOT to ignore her, but to carry on as you normally would. Be polite but nothing more. Be a gentleman and show her just what she missed out on. You will find a girl for you, who will accept and afore you. Keep positive and keep strong.

If it helps any . . .. . I’m an NT and I had a close friendship with an Aspie man . . .. he has recently blocked me on every form of communication . . . .so try not to take it too personally, in my situation it was a reaction to me making the point that it would have been nice if he had text me after I spent a week being a taxi service for him and other stuff. . . . Who knows. Only option is to move on.

Take care

The group starts again this Sunday. I'm gonna try and act like nothing happened. I'm still holding foolish hope that she's just really scared. Can't stop thinking about it.

I think that's rightThat's possible, but don't be tempted to try again unless either a considerable time has passed eg six months or she's given you some encouragement. Hope it goes well, and try to have a good time.

I agree wiTh fluffy. In the meantime, I would try to make friends with other girls and see if any are interested in meeting up.

Yeh, it’s fun to do that. Especially when they try all sorts of ways to get your attention. It’s hilarious!

Honestly, if some guy passed me a note asking to be friends, I'd be weirded out.

Passing notes is something middle-school kids do, not adults.

Quite a while back when I was buying a book I noticed the bookshop person being particularly friendly. Later when I was on the tube I noticed he had put a note inside my book asking me out and leaving his number. I was not particularly weirded out. I text him to say I had a boyfriend and he just text back saying something like "I had to try" and that was that. That is quite a while ago now and maybe things have changed but I don't think the note thing is odd. I think not responding and blanking someone is odd.

And it’s more fun if you give full attention to any another girl (or guy in your case) while ignoring her as if she is an insect.

Passing notes worked well in the George Strait song, Check Yes Or No but they were in 3rd grade at the time

You don't specify that you didn't but I'm assuming you didn't already add her. For future reference, this should always be step 1. You don't even have to talk at all first, as long as you know each other and she accepts you've got a start.