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26 Mar 2018, 9:28 pm

if you think the problem is because you're ugly and work in retail, i don't see how paying $72 will solve it. i guess the best option is what people already said: improve your profile first. if you feel you can't make your self attractive to people in those dating sites, why not try elsewhere? you like games, so maybe you should be active in some games forum and maybe meet some people there that can become a potential date? i don't know, i give advice but i'm also terrible at this things lol

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26 Mar 2018, 10:33 pm

ltcvnzl wrote:

if you think the problem is because you're ugly and work in retail, i don't see how paying $72 will solve it.

Yeah, if you believe you're not getting results for these reasons, paying $72 probably won't make much difference

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27 Mar 2018, 8:55 am

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Eharmony charges $360
A video game cost me $60 in comparison

They also charge women a lot less: I know this because three different women told me (including Mrs GHF) what they paid and it was a tiny fraction of what I paid. I would still rather have paid $360 to eHarmony than $72 to POF. eHarmony might be full of emotionally unavailable women but at least I never had to worry about being stalked or falsely accused of a crime by some delusional psycho. Some of those POF women (and I am sure men are the same way) are downright scary and even being paid $360 a year to be a member would not have been worth it.

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27 Mar 2018, 10:17 am

GiantHockeyFan wrote:

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Eharmony charges $360
A video game cost me $60 in comparison

They do so to encourage women to join.

All other dating sites, by default, are total sausage fests.

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27 Mar 2018, 12:52 pm

Guys, I can take pictures that make me look bad too.

Big difference between this selfie:

and these:

Yeah I'm purposely making myself look bad by changing the angle to make me look fat (the opposite of the infamous myspace angle). But I've seen guys with profile pictures worse than this.

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27 Mar 2018, 1:04 pm

Here's what my tinder looked like last week before I deleted it and started over this weekend.

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Alex is attractive and it says he’s a ceo(women think well off) I’m ugly and work retail.
If I was also attractive and a ceo I’m sure I’d get tons of likes. I’ve gotten one in all the time I’ve been on tinder.

Well I'm also very selective in who I swipe on. I'm matching with women that are successful. Like successful entrepreneurs, actresses, and models. Notice there are over 750 matches. So you should be able to match with at least 10% of that if you change your photos to something more flattering and are not super selective like I am.

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27 Mar 2018, 3:08 pm

But if I do photoshopping and diffangles if i get dates when I show up they feel tricked, like others here have said when a girl shows up who in her pictures Lois pretty and thin but is fat and unattractive in person.

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27 Mar 2018, 3:12 pm

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Do you always face people front on? No? Then it's not dishonest to show different angles.

That first unflattering pic of Alex is not a good indication of what he looks like. I know because I've taken the same angle shot of myself (or just seen myself when I first switch to front facing camera) and I look better than that usually!

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27 Mar 2018, 3:12 pm

Also the bigger issu is my income, car and home status. I’m not well off. A lot of women won’t date men work ping min wage who can’t afford to have a car or live alone.

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27 Mar 2018, 3:14 pm

yellowtamarin wrote:

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Do you always face people front on? No? Then it's not dishonest to show different angles.

He suggested I photoshop my acne out, which sure would look better but I almost always have acne, so I’d have to learn how to use make then to cover it in person.

I’m confused how to take better pictures. The ones I took were already hard to hid my double chin, I can look up but you won’t see my face at all then

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27 Mar 2018, 3:15 pm

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Also the bigger issu is my income, car and home status. I’m not well off. A lot of women won’t date men work ping min wage who can’t afford to have a car or live alone.

So that being the case, what do you think your best bet is?

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27 Mar 2018, 3:23 pm

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:

sly279 wrote:

Also the bigger issu is my income, car and home status. I’m not well off. A lot of women won’t date men work ping min wage who can’t afford to have a car or live alone.

So that being the case, what do you think your best bet is?

Realistically to die, but I haven’t given up hope yet . Seems unlikely society will change and as long as it doesn’t most women won’t want a loser.
I play the lottery when it gets high, if I won then I’d be loveable.

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27 Mar 2018, 3:29 pm

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I’m confused how to take better pictures. The ones I took were already hard to hid my double chin, I can look up but you won’t see my face at all then

In your first one you are facing forward and looking down. It wouldn't take much to lift the camera a bit higher so your eyes are slightly upwards instead of downwards. And you can tilt your head slightly sideways. Don't go overboard. Did you try my suggestion of taking a video and screencapturing the best angle? Just move your head or the camera around slowly, get a feel for it and how the angle changes as you move.

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27 Mar 2018, 3:58 pm

I think the best long-term approach is to apply yourself to succeed in life and lose your double chin.

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27 Mar 2018, 4:08 pm

sly279 wrote:

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:

sly279 wrote:

Also the bigger issu is my income, car and home status. I’m not well off. A lot of women won’t date men work ping min wage who can’t afford to have a car or live alone.

So that being the case, what do you think your best bet is?

But then you risk women being attracted to you for money only.

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27 Mar 2018, 4:23 pm

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:

sly279 wrote:

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:

sly279 wrote:

Also the bigger issu is my income, car and home status. I’m not well off. A lot of women won’t date men work ping min wage who can’t afford to have a car or live alone.

So that being the case, what do you think your best bet is?

But then you risk women being attracted to you for money only.

From my view of the world that’s how a lot of women are anyways, they cover it with saying they need a man who can afford to provide for kids one day but that doesn’t change the fact that for many how much a man makes is more important then who he is. * not saying it’s the only reason just it’s higher up then personality, common interests, etc. there’s a reason it’s on the top of the list for them. I doubt they really love the men they’re with, probably why there’s more divorces when men suddenly lose their job, they loved his income status not him and he lost it so now it’s gone and they realize they don’t love him.
So if I won the lottery I could have the same fake relationship most people in this superficial society have. Or I might get a gold digger, but as long as she fakes loving me, doesn’t try to kill me, and the money lasts I wouldn’t care. I don’t think true love exists except for a minority of people in western civilization. People in China, India, and Africa get true love but we’ve lost our way.

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